A thank you to those that have reached out and helped when I've been at my lowest. My dad passed away a few days ago. His last months were not pleasant and he did suffer. I feel lost but remorseful. I will always feel that I wronged him by letting him go into a nursing home. He was a good man and it feels wrong that he had to leave this world a shadow of who he was, barely able to swallow and unable to even enjoy a cup of tea. Little more than a skeleton, so wrong and unkind. I need to remember his bravery to the end. He was too good for me, why was life so cruel?
We, too, need to find our peace and not continue to suffer on their behalf. You did what you could when you could, and trust me, whatever you did or didn't do did not change the ultimate outcome.
It's only oeen a couple of days. The grief is new, and it'll take a while for it to dissipate. Give yourself that time.
May The Lord give you grieving mercies and strength during this new season of your life.
May you find comfort in those memories of earlier days, in your belief system, and in your circle of loved ones.
My mother is 95 next month; she's been suffering for YEARS now, wheelchair bound and in pain daily with bad neuropathy in her legs. This is her journey to travel, for some reason, and she'll pass when God is ready to take her Home, not a moment before. I'm sorry that she has to suffer like this, and it does seem wrong for anyone TO suffer, but that's how life goes. It isn't meant to be easy and pain free; it's meant to have hardships and obstacles, I think. I take comfort in knowing that when she does pass, all that pain and suffering will vanish and she'll be at perfect peace for eternity.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose a father and it hurts an awful lot. Please be kind to yourself as you grieve this loss and try not to place blame anywhere; that serves no useful purpose. Sending you a hug and a prayer for peace.
You did not wrong him by getting him in a nursing home. There’s a team of people there night and day and caring for someone at home can be exhausting beyond belief. Look for a grief group for support and understanding.
Having him in a nursing home was a decision I'm sure you gave great thought to. And he probably had good and bad days--as all of us do!
The bottom line is, you loved your dad, he knew it..and his passing was in his time-I hope you can find peace that he is no longer suffering.
My daddy died 18 years ago today. I am so glad I had such a wonderful daddy. The best thing I can do to honor his life is to strive to be like him.
Time will heal your pain.