mom was raised on a farm where they did not do excersises.... milking cows and lifting 100 lb hay bales was what they did for excersise...... so when i try to get her to do leg lifts for example i get a feeling like im forcing her to do soemthing she does not normally do... im looking for a clever way to get her to move a little instead of sitting on the couch till she falls asleep from boredom
Have you tried just giving her simple tasks while you are doing a task like standing at the table and folding towels or underwear (even if it's nor perfect and you have to resold later...).
Maybe lay out old tablecloth and a couple pots or seed trays and have her plant seeds, then care for?
Can she stir batter for a cake or cookie mix? Peel potatoes or carrots, or set the table (keep it simple where you just give her plates, once she lays out plates, then you hand her forks, then she comes back and gets napkins).
Maybe give her a book or coat, sweater and tell her " can you help by putting this in sissy's bed?" Can you put this pair of socks on Ted's dresser? Mom can you help me by bringing me my bath towel from the hall bath?
Do you have a local senior center she can attend and maybe they can engage her or would she be interested in silver sneakers where they can be a mall walker a couple times a week and partner with someone? That way she has some independence away from you.