I take care of my husband who just turned 61 but looks more like 90. He has a feeding tube that enters his stomach just above the belly button. He has a degenerative muscular disease of some kind that is not ALS. He refuses to do any of what was taught him to better his condition, example exercises physically, breathing exercises taking a walk with the aid of his walker etc. He seems content to just sit in his chair all day and watch television. I am thankful he can still do for himself when it comes to his feeding and medications, which all goes through the tube. I tried to take him on a trip to visit relatives about seven hours away and he did not do very well. He spent one day in the motel room and another when he wanted attention and I being the one who worries I am not doing enough, took him to the VA Clinic there only to have the Dr. prescribe a pain med to add to the ones he already takes. Then he threw an absolute fit in front of family our last day there, so I feel I cannot travel with him comfortably any longer. I felt that the only way I could get a break would be to take him with me, I feel that that is no longer an option. I do have a week planned to go to a Mexican resort the first part of May, but I need to find some one who will come in and check in on him and give him aid with getting in and out of the shower. My son lives near by and said he would be glad to stop in and see him daily, but that is all he will do. So I am going to check with the VA office here in Pahrump and see if they have program for Veteran's. I truly need to get away, but I cannot help worrying about his care. Sincerely, Sherry in Pahrump Nevada
Please thank your husband for his service from a desert storm vet :)
I wish y'all the best
Hope you will find respite on your trip to Mexico.
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