My aunt is dying, two options (from the Ins. MD) bring her home, we can get help. Or take her to a skill nursing facility, we pay. S.O.S. Insurance M.D.said she is dying. It seems they won't continue paying for the Hospital. She gave us two options: a) Bring her home, they (State or Medical) will supply bed, equipment and nurses to visit. b) Take her to a skill nursing facility and we will have to pay for it. We want to bring her home and take care of her until the end. Does anybody know how does that work? Any personal experience, I do not mind looking after her. THANKS!!!
Google eminent death, so you know the stages. Even in a coma she can hear you, so speak lovingly. Dad went into a coma for 3 days, and just stopped breathing. Everyone was there around the bed. You call hospice and they pronounce death, and call the funeral parlor. They come and take the body when you are ready.
There is a you tube video "Gone from my sight", which explains the process. It was very helpful. You are doing a wonderful thing.
Please ask questions about your aunt's future and what's best for her...it sounds like it's time to let her go painlessly and as peacefully as possible, whether she has a DNR signed or not. I have one on my 95 year old mom and will work to make sure it's honored when the time comes.
I'm really only familiar with Medicare, but I think I would get confirmation that she is in a terminal state, since I don't understand why hospice wouldn't be a choice as opposed to a skilled nursing facility, Maybe I'm just not that familiar with the closeness of the two choices though.
By the way, do you feel she is teminal??
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