Soon I will be attending the Plan of Care meeting and I want to bring the subject of a roach, and a dirty trash bin in my husband's bedroom. This is the first time in almost two years I witness these failures. I do not want to go as far as the Ombudsman. I know it takes diplomacy, but I am not sure I possess that gift.
Perhaps you can think of yourself as part of the team (which you are), and are bringing to their attention the issue of sanitation. If you were an on-staff nurse, how would you raise the issue?
How can you present it to them in such a way that they see you as a compatriot, nonthreatening, and someone who is problem solving oriented?
To do this, imagine that someone found a roach in your house. Yes, gross, I know. Makes your skin crawl. What kind of approach would be alert oriented, nonthreatening and helpful? Then take that approach.
Non threatening is I think the best approach, with firmness to indicate concern.
If you don't want to involve an Ombudsperson, don't, unless changes aren't made.
Perhaps you could present your own plan of action for their consideration - be "proactive" as the biz people like to say. Think about how this could be done with vulnerable elderly - spraying wouldn't be a good idea, I would think.
If you can think of alternate plans, present both so they have an option.
Ask when they think they can address AND resolve this problem.
I'm not sure how much of an issue a dirty trash bin is. Is it overflowing with bacteria infested material? Flowing onto the floor? Smells?
I would write the CEO of the NH and then get the state agency which is supposed to regulate the NH involved. The NH like any health institution should do its best to provide a clean environment. Infection rates may be high in such a setting.
Keep your eye on what is best for your husband and his health or recovery.
As far as the roach, I wouldn't wait to tell them. Perhaps the facility was just treated and that made bugs "run."