This aide is very difficult and has done an awful job coordinating and taking care of the logistics of the job. She has been verbally abusive to my Mom. She has been very disrespectful to me and has not sent me texts while my Mother is in the hospital. My brother is siding with the aide and now I cannot communicate with any of the other aides. It's madness. I just found out that she lost her LPN license, was fired from her last job and her Father is a convicted murder of a 17 year old girl. She also has trashed my family and saying cruel things. Help? I do have someone who can take over immediately who is great. Thank you for taking the time to help me out. I greatly appreciate it.
If you both do, fire her.
If you do, fire her.
If he does, you're out of luck, but if it was me, I might fire her anyway.
Who does SHE think she works for? Who hired her?
The aide is not responsible for anything her father did. I hope that had nothing whatsoever to do with her either losing her licence or being fired from her previous job.
Give your brother the licensing information and the contact details for the replacement candidate. If there's no response, then you'll have to think what to do next. Where are the other aides coming from?
What is your brothers reasoning for keeping this woman who is abusive towards his mother?
Whomever is the POA decides.
That simplifies things.
If that means your bro is in charge and you feel there is a real danger here explain that danger in detail to APS and ask that they do wellness check on this situation.
And if you have hired her privately she can legally dispense and give medication. (If she was with an agency they would require her to have a valid license to administer medication)
Now her license is another matter.
Why was if revoked? was it that she did not pay a fee to have it renewed?
Did not complete CEU's to keep current?
Did she have it revoked due to malpractice?
Did she have it revoked because she was abusive physically, financially, verbally?
What her father did should have no barring on what she does. I presume since he was convicted he served his time. Unless she covered up the crime or aided him in any way what her father did is not a reflection of her.
Her "trashing" your family, saying cruel things is slander if it is not true and you could sue but it is probably not worth the time, expense or effort. Unless it effects you or the family in a financial way. (do you own a business and are losing business because of what is being said?)
All this said the fact that she is doing a poor job, she is verbally abusive to your mother would be enough for me to let this person go.
What reasoning does your brother have for keeping her?
I suppose it gets down to who is POA, who is responsible for hiring and paying her?
If it is your brother then there is not a lot you can do other than ...
Report the abuse to APS. Document each incident and if you have audio and or video of any abuse that might be useful. Keep in mind that audio in some States is legal only if both parties consent to the recording.