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In the greater metro area the costs for asst. living is $6K-$8K per month. Mom will blow through her savings very quickly. So, this is not an option for her. I have the room but she really needs a lot of daily attention.
Could Mom come and "visit" you for a few weeks, so you'd get a better idea of what this would really be like?
What has your relationship with Mom been like up to now?
Before she even moves in (if that is your decision) arrange for regular respite care. You need to get away from caregiving periodically. No one can be a 24/7/365 caregiver and retain their sanity. And it is perfectly appropriate for you to spend Mom's money on respite care for her.
Weeellll, I don't know. I came on here because I am part time care giver to my Mom and fully expected to be full time at some point in the future HOWEVER since I have been on here for a few months(5) and have been reading the posts and stories I realize it is a much bigger decision than I anticipated. Not to scare you -just go in with your eyes open -read the posts on here- as many as you can. But also remember that people come on here to vent so you WILL get worst case scenarios and stories. Very few people come on a forum to post how happy they are. Just human nature.
No, really, I don't think it is crazy but I do think that some caretakers wished they had made a different decision , chose a different path than bringing their loved one into their own home. You can still be a great care giver without taking them in, IMO. I would research all the possibilities. Good luck!!!
Not at all. It will not be easy. There are many resources that can help you. Make sure you use them so that you don't get burned out. Adult Day Care is a great way for her to socialize and stay as active as possible. My mom attends Stay For A Day in Orange City. Home Health is another option.
I don't think it's a good decision to take her in, especially if she's resistant. Hats off to her for wanting to be independent. In theory, I think it sounds like a great idea, however in practice, it permeates your life and basically will begin to feel like you've given up your life as her wants/needs will begin to dominate your life. I'd work towards getting some support to go in maybe a couple of times a week to check in and provide some support (ie: deliver meals, grocery shopping, dr's appts., check in on meds-be sure no slippage in what she is/isn't taking), give her a lifeline necklace for the ability to call an ambulance if she fell or something happened where she needed to call for immediate assistance. If she values her freedom, she'd probably rather live independently as long she can. Just my two cents.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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What has your relationship with Mom been like up to now?
Before she even moves in (if that is your decision) arrange for regular respite care. You need to get away from caregiving periodically. No one can be a 24/7/365 caregiver and retain their sanity. And it is perfectly appropriate for you to spend Mom's money on respite care for her.
No, really, I don't think it is crazy but I do think that some caretakers wished they had made a different decision , chose a different path than bringing their loved one into their own home. You can still be a great care giver without taking them in, IMO. I would research all the possibilities. Good luck!!!