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One of the big problems for the elderly is loneliness. Many of their friends have died and it's hard to replace the people in your life at that age. I'm working on a community at my church and neighboring churches where the elderly can get together or have easy contact with one another, so they can make new friends and have social activities. It's kind of like creating a network for the elderly, but in a positive, community sense. Are you familiar with similar programs or do you have any suggestions? I'm trying to make this as simple and self sustaining as possible. But I hope to hear what other groups are doing or get additional ideas on making this successful. Thank you.

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We had a dear woman who did this years back. When she moved, it all fell apart.

How she did it was we each picked a shutin from a list. For the next year we were to send cards for special occasions. Visit if we wanted. Give small gifts. After a year, we were asked to switch off. We had a Tea. If our "friend" could attend an invite was sent to him/her.

I lucked out because the woman I chose was the first secretary for the Visiting Nurse Assoc that I was secretary for. She worked in the 50s, I worked 50 years later. Learned a lot of history from her.
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faeriefiles May 2019
I was part of a similar program for the home-bound elderly. Volunteers had to submit to a background check first. After that it ran pretty much like @JoAnn29 describes. The home-bound could sign up for it or their caregivers/family could add them to the list.
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Your initiative is certainly needed and could be quite rewarding--for you, for those who volunteer to help you, and for those who need help. However, You and your volunteers will need to do some work reading and understanding how to help those you wish to reach. I would start with Dr. Jennifer Bute's, "Dementia from the Inside: A Doctor's Personal Journey of Hope (Society for Promoting Christian Knowledge, 2018). Jennifer has a beautiful faith; and chapter 5, with a summary on p. 106 is outstanding. For specific activities look at James R. Dowling's "Keeping Busy: A Handbook of Activities for Persons with Dementia," as well as Karrie Marshall's "A Creative Toolkit for Communication in Dementia Care (Jessica Kingsley, 2016). These three books (readily available from Amazon or secondhand perhaps from www.abebooks.com) will give you a good start. Do make sure your pastor is on board and don't forget to educate him or her as well.

All the best, with my prayers.
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HappyWill May 2019
I'm hoping this isn't dealing with people with dementia. I want it to be seniors, who are still active, and this gives them a resource to get to know new people and hopefully develop relationships with them. Thanks for your reply.
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My experience was with my mother in law. An issue I saw was the difficulty of mixing people who really couldn’t participate much, with people who were lonely and wanted company. The lonely people found it quite depressing to be with the group who just sat. Really, some of them were only interested in the free meal. It got worse when the organisers decided to ‘integrate’ the meeting with very low IQ younger adults from a supported living organisation. The intention may have been good, but these younger adults were very noisy (shrieks and groans, which sounds dreadful but is accurate), and were also poorly co-ordinated and could be a danger to frail elderly people if they got up and moved around. The meeting had speakers, and my MIL quit when they had a speaker explaining dementia. She had been through it with FIL, and the whole thing upset her a lot. It’s quite hard to exclude people once you have set it up, so think about your ‘target group’ first. I hope that the recommended books help you to do it better, but knowing the pitfalls can help too. Very best wishes for something that is certainly worthwhile.
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HappyWill May 2019
Thanks on this. Those are good points. I hope to make the events that people come too, have something that is compelling for them. From there, they get to know new people and begin to build new relationships.
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We also have a community lunch. Everyone is invited and Church members are encouraged to mingle among the
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HappyWill May 2019
Thanks on this. This is the direction I'm thinking of, an event, like lunch or breakfast, but it's just for seniors. A way for them to get to know each other, and hopefully, begin to build new relationships. My hope is to have 4 or 5 churches involved, so there is a bigger pool of seniors. But, I think this is just the starting point for my program.
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Lots of hobby type of classes (Rock painting, oil painting, simple arts and crafts), A dance for seniors with music that doesn't scare them, Wii bowling and exercises, simple exercise classes (Exercise is important when you get older), movie night (old classic movies), Ice cream socials, card parties and bingo parties, non alcoholic happy hours, gardening groups, Trips out to local restaurants (A lot of older people like to go to family style restaurants and have meals together), museums and local festivals, Being a mentor or adopted grandparent to a child in the community. Pet therapy would also be good for seniors, as well: Many seniors love animals. I volunteer on and off with a group that hosts bingo parties for the veterans (some of them are elderly) at the vets home.

You would have to look at asking a local bus company to devote time and resources to help seniors get to and from the activities. Many of them can't drive anymore.
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NeedHelpWithMom May 2019
I would love that! I love crafts. All of these ideas are good.

Our seniors at our church do field trips to museums and other places.
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You could bring in organizations that screen for glaucoma, or discuss other medical issues, host a classic movie night, hold classes (such as maximizing Internet use) bring in experts/lecturers, do some projects for the church (like planting). Seniors like doing things for children such as working with kids on basics (phonics?) or packing book bags for needy kids. You could introduce sessions where seniors read aloud to children.

Find out some of the special personal stories your seniors can tell. Do you have Veterans among your membership? Civilians who lived through wars? Honor them by asking them to stand in commemoration of Veterans Day. Plan an event where they can tell their stories.

Do you have members who attended one-room school houses or lived through other special historic circumstances or events? Maybe they had an ice box when they were young, or usually rode in a carriage. It is so interesting to learn about their lives.

You can hold special events that correlate to holidays - for Valentines Day celebrate those in the congregation that have been married 40 plus years and ask them to give their best hints for making love last. If they aren’t comfortable speaking in front of the congregation, publish their remarks in the bulletin. They will feel special. Host a Valentines dance where you play love songs from their youth. Even the widows and widowers will feel younger when their hear “their” songs.
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NeedHelpWithMom May 2019
Great idea!
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I know I’ve said this before, but most of the suggestions you are getting are only suitable for older people who are still well and truly ‘with it’, and that is what you are aiming for as well. What are you going to do if people (or facilities!) decide that your little ‘community’ is a good free daycare option to take people who are definitely not ‘with it’, and park them with you to get them out for the morning? And believe me, it’s amazing how people rush to a free option. How can you keep this group out, if you aren’t aiming at them? If you take them, how can you keep up the ‘bright and breezy’ ‘fun’ options for the others? Changing the rules is difficult, particularly if it is going to upset an important facility, so think it through first.
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HappyWill May 2019
A really good point. It's something I haven't considered yet. I'm hoping to make this a monthly event and then establish a way for the different people to reach out among themselves. Get them started in knowing other people and encouraging them to do little things with each other. Like get together for coffee, or lunch, or even a movie. My plan now, is to get people to meet each other and begin to build their own tiny communities. Thanks again for your input.
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In my area there are "senior diners" groups that meet for a meal and social time. What I've seen happening with these groups is that they are attended by all the more active people in the community - you know, the ones that are already attending every other event available. If your goal is to help those who are lonely you need to give some thought as to identifying them, overcoming the barriers that are causing their isolation and getting them there.
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HappyWill May 2019
That's a real good point. I'm glad you mentioned that. I'm going to be starting without knowing a lot of the people or those who may have difficulties attending (Especially from other churches). Then also finding a way to reach out to them. I'm very active in my own career, so my time is going to be precious, it's going to take finding a way to effectively get to and communicate with these people and then get them involved. Thanks again.
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First off, God bless you, Happy for contributing in such a lovely way to your church. Anyone can drop a check or cash in the collection and we should donate but but this is a gift from the heart, service, just as Jesus came to serve. To me this is a beautiful Christian act. Thank you.

Great suggestions, everyone!

Our senior citizen group at church does the typical dinners once a month as a social gathering in the banquet hall at church.

Recommendations are printed out for seniors with community activities such as reading books for our local radio station for our blind community. Some have been volunteering for years reading books.

We also have guest speakers come in to address seniors. I went to the ‘end of life’ planning which covered, hospice, living wills, burial or cremation arrangements, etc. It was very good. Very simple refreshments were served, coffee, soft drinks, cake and cookies.

One thing that a lot of seniors love are the special field trips, museums, an art gallery, a picnic at a local park, socializing in a new spot!

Not at my church but one near by has a community garden that seniors plant vegetables and they are distributed to low income families.

A bus is chartered and off they go! They appreciate it because not all seniors drive and they get to visit different places and do different things. It’s a nice change of pace for them, a special memory which is special because it’s experiences that they often crave and often means more than material things.
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HappyWill May 2019
Thanks so much on this and these are real good ideas. Because I'm very involved with my work and other pursuits, I have limits on my time. What I'm hoping is to have a couple of simple events, like the dinner (Or lunch or breakfast) each month. I'm going to have seniors come from different churches. My goal isn't to provide fun events for them to attend, but rather as way for the seniors to meet new people and encourage them to build their own " community". Simply getting to know new people, exchange emails and hopefully, begin to do simple things together, like go out for coffee or lunch, or to the museum. My goal is for the seniors to begin to get new people in their lives- especially when their old friends & family are no longer in their lives (through death and other things). Thanks again.
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Me again. Maybe you should a have neighbors helping neighbors type of program through the churches: Where they can get help for a broken toilet, Where they can get some help with planting the summer garden, Getting help for yard work, Where they can get help with whatever they need help with. If they want to volunteer helping someone out, who is active or non active, elderly or non elderly, that would be nice. After many senior males retire, many of them look at helping the community by doing fix it type of work or to putz around in the garage, doing wood working. (There's a woodworking/fix it group at the senior center in our area and they do make benches, etc. for areas in the community. It's called the man cave and it's quite popular) As for charge, it would be up to the church if they would feel comfortable charging for services or not-Maybe if they charge, they can put the money towards expenses for senior events (refreshments, etc.)
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Anonymous1256 May 2019
Our senior citizen center also did a brat fry-hot dog fry called grampa's grill every summer. For a few bucks, the public could get a brat (bratwurst on a bun), a bag of chips, soda or water and a cookie. The meat products would be grilled outside. This was held outside, even when it was raining (They had a canopy up during rainy weather). some or all of the proceeds would towards the senior programs that were held at the center. My father, when he was able to walk a long distance back then, would go to them. They would be held once or twice a week. They were always busy when Grampa's grill was open. The food was good and affordable for any budget. All different age groups would attend these and people would forward to these every summer. Maybe this would be a fundraiser (Ongoing or temporary) that would help generate funds for the senior programs in your community.
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Internet cafe Bus trips to the casino (some older folks like to gamble). Senior Prom, Tea
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You could have a cooking class in the church kitchen where all participate. Afterward everyone could share the meal.

I’m sure many of them are great cooks, but you could introduce them to new, trendy recipes or themed cuisine to introduce into their repertoire.

You could ask chefs at local restaurants to donate their time, ask church members, or even have the seniors take turns “teaching” the class (or one course of a meal).

The meals could be “themed” - Italian, Vietnamese, Mardi Gras, “1950s.”

A small “materials” fee could cover the costs.
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HappyWill May 2019
Really good idea. Maybe we could have a cooking event, my church has a big kitchen, next to the meeting room. I'm not sure how much, of events I want to create, because I have limited time. But maybe something could be done relatively easily. Thanks again.
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A church near me has a group they call "Keenagers" - 55+ that gets together each month for a potluck. Searching the internet it seems that this name is commonly used, though I don't know if there is an official organization behind it.

From there, smaller groups of folks break off into other activities, like buying season tickets to the theater and attending shows together. Or going out to lunch after church.

I think they occasionally have speakers come in, such as a yoga instructor who can demonstrate exercises and how to safely get up off the floor.
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I would like to do something like this at my church but am getting nowhere. I would just like to have a place where I could go with my husband and he could have some socializing. I would go with him. This is the “forgotten “ group. I pray you are successful and would love any ideas.
Thank you. Eloise
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HappyWill May 2019
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A lady in our community has started a Facebook group of local citizens who offer help to Seniors. She has many resources and is hoping to connect local Seniors with people who can help.

Actually, most of the Seniors I know are far more concerned with financial obligations than anything else, ourselves included, and how to afford the maintenance of our long-time homes. Creating a list of handymen, students wishing to do service work, and any other low cost help for us would be much appreciated. This list should not be solely income-based. I say this because we do not qualify for income-based assistance and that is extremely frustrating. I’d like to find someone to help us just because we’re Seniors, hubby is disabled and we just plain need help. I’m tired of doing the application/denial dance with various agencies.
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HappyWill May 2019
Thanks for the response and that's a real good idea. With the group I form, maybe, I can put that out to the retirees, that if they could possibly help other seniors in need. It's a great way to get them out and it helps those who need it. I wish you the very best in getting assistance. If you're part of a church or a senior group, why don't you request help or at least suggest that you could use some. Very best wishes.
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