I’m at a loss here about how to handle a situation. Over the last two weeks, my father has exhibited sexually inappropriate behavior at his memory care facility (directed at staff). He has suspected FTD/Alz mix.
His dr has upped his Seroquel dose hoping that helps, but so far the behaviors have just escalated. The memory care facility seems to be nearing the end of their rope, and just not something they want to deal with. They say he does not remember that they told him he can’t do these things….well, obviously he doesn’t remember…he has dementia! They want me to come in and give my father a “talking-to” about these behaviors…but he won’t even remember that I was there or what I said.
Has anyone had a family member display these behaviors? Did anything help? If they got kicked out of a facility, did another facility take them? Any advice welcome, I’m an only child and do not have anyone to go to for advice/help. Thank you.
This may not be ideal, but to use an old expression 'needs must when the devil drives'. He must have a place that will take him. This stage may not last forever, or even all that long.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation.
The solution is to leave him in his room where he can do that all day unless staff is tending him. At which point they should restrain him if he starts playing with himself, then get out to allow him to do that all day.
Also, the staff sound like they are clueless about dementia and memory loss.
The appropriate manner is already being addressed by you; this may be able to be handled with medications. Stay in close touch with the doctors. The facility should not be unused to managing this (hopefully) as it is a manifestation we certainly see often on the forum.
I am so sorry and am wishing you the very best of luck.