She used to like him then started making bizarre accusations against him. I keep getting told to Go Back Home (to my ex-husband). We are getting married in a couple of months and I still haven't told her, the thought of the abuse, nastiness and weird reasons why I shouldn't do it will spoil a happy time in my life. I know I can walk away, refuse to discuss etc. but is there any way to approach the subject without sending her ballistic?
With out going into details, my mother set out to ruin the happiest time of my life and succeeded. We broke up as he told me he hated my mother and family and our marriage would not work out.
My advise, from one who experienced tremendous heartbreak, go away and have a private ceremony. Tell your mother, after the fact, that you are married and happy. What ever you do she will not approve and I suspect that she will do her best to cause friction in your marriage. I would never wish on my worst enemy the despair and pain that I experienced. Please do not let this happen to you.
Enjoy your happiness; you deserve it! If you don't feel comfortable having a private ceremony and then telling her you are married, maybe just tell her over the phone and that way you can keep the conversation short. Take care and enjoy this time in your life.