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my ex wife is receiving alimony from me and i believe she is also receiving money from the state of new mexico for caring for her elderly grandfather. If i can find out if she is in fact receiving income from another source i may be able to have the alimony stopped or reduced through a modification order which i am currently working on. I have custody of our 2 children and am trying to regain my income as it is quite expensive raising 2 children. any help would be appriciated

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If she's caring for her father, the money she would receive is minimal. Let it go. The stress associated with caregiving is extreme. I think you wanting to lower alimony when she is doing something that is the hardest thing to do is downright unkind.
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How is your question related to the care of a loved one? You came to the wrong forum for the advice you need.

You need to look into a Dad's rights organization.
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I understand not being able to afford an attorney. Are you aware that there are fathers rights groups? They're not support groups, they advocate for fathers in divorce and/or custody disputes.

Good luck to you.
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I don't care if the exwife is a caregiver. Her first responsibility is in the financial support of her children. How a noncustodial parent can be getting alimony and not financialy supporting their children is a disgrace. I am with pamstegman on this one.
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If the ex is being paid by the state I would think that your attorney should be able to determine that. And while I'm not experienced in this area in the least I also think (just my opinion) that in the course of you trying to obtain a modification order the ex will have to turn over her bank statements at some point which will show that she is being paid by the state.
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I don't see how she could get alimony and also be on NM welfare or Medicaid Waiver program. You either report her to the authorities, which costs you nothing, or you go to court for a review of alimony and child support payments. They can force her to show income, resources and expenses. Assuming that she lives with her grandfather, she may have near zero expenses and if there is income, she would owe part of that to child support. Go For It.
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It is not your business.
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She could be caring for her grandfather who may be on the waiver program, which would mean she is being paid by the state. She only gets paid for as long as he's on the program. You might try: fatherssupportingfather/ if they are unable to assist, do an internet search. Caring for children as a single parent isn't an easy task. Good luck.
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Robert, curious why you have custody of the 2 children..... or is it a case of joint custody but because your children's mother has her hands full caring for her grandfather, that you are helping out by having the children?
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