Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
Your local Alzheimer's Association could help your mom.
One thing I've noticed is that not all spouses make good caregivers for Alzheimer's patients. They can't cope with the changes in their mate and they live in denial. They can actually become abusive. If your mom won't get help and learn how to handle him with compassion, you may need to look at assisted living for your dad.
This doesn't mean your mom is a bad person. It just means she can't cope with the "loss" of her husband. It happens more often than one would like to think. Carol
My mom's always been mean, and there's no teaching her. But the Alzheimer's Association and others, like this site, have been helping ME. It's a journey... We can't make anyone perform the way we think they should. But we can model love and compassion. I'd say your dad is blessed to have you looking out for him!
Mom is not so much in denial as angry at the added time & patience needed to cope with Dad. We just recently moved them into a nice assisted living suite because she refused to handle Dad's meds and he took her meds twice - once he had to be resusitated in the ambulance. Now we are dealing with her anger at being forced from her home as well. We have power of attorney for both of them but we are trying to let them handle their own finances as much as possible for now. One sibling is encouraging the negative outlook which doesn't help.
I know this is a hard adjustment time for them, but I'm getting very depressed myself, trying to keep up with finding and fixing all their business details as well as helping take care of the empty house. It is just overwhelming at times because it's like working in the dark. Any questions about their affairs is met with an "I don't know" and you're left to muddle around until you find the answer. Important papers are missing and that is so frustrating for me - I like everything organized. I've been on meds for depression and anxiety for years so I'm finding it a real struggle.
Glad you did. Hope it helps! I read your post, and think, "Been there, done that, am there now...." Can relate to your struggle with your loved ones. All I can think is, "This too shall pass." Just try to stay calm, focus and also take care of you. You are the blessing they don't recognize! Vent all you need.
I can relate to your situation. My Father has had some health issues for years, he is 85. He trys to keep his mind active and he is for the most part reasonable and rational. My Mother however is NOT! She has gotten increasingly anxious and forgetful to a point where my Dad says "she is driving me crazy". I took her to see the Dr and we had some testing done, she is now on aricept. She is also angry and does not want to accept what is happening. She is 82 Dad is 85. I do everything I can for them however I am concerned they are declining to the point that they need some more care... It will be me because my sisters do not live close. take care and hang in there...
My brother has been living with and caring for my parents for many years now. My father now has parkinsons and dimencia and mom is a bear to do what she needs to care for him. My brother's DR. has told him he needs to get away or he will get sick as well. Can he leave them alone for a time so he can recover? What is the law regarding this?
I can definitely relate to your situation. My mom is angry & frustrated about my dads dementia. I don't think she is stressed out about being a caregiver because we have had a caregiver in their home from 9a - 7:30p.m. seven days a week. She stresses out and starts screaming when she has to get him in bed after the caregiver leaves. If the caregiver stays till 9p.m. to get them in bed, she stays up until 10p.m. and then cries and melts down when she has difficulty getting him in bed. I think she is angry about her life and angry about the condition of her spouse. My parents had a great 50+ year marriage. I'm am frustrated with her behavior because it is totally not typical of how my mom used to be. Don't know how to help her accept this and make the best of a very bad situtation... There are 4 of us kids plus now they are in assisted living and she still makes things harder than they have to be. She is more of a problem than my dad now. This is stressful to us kids because my dad's situation was hard enough to accept and try to manage, now my mom is having "issues". Hope it helps to know that your mom isn't the only one acting that way.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
One thing I've noticed is that not all spouses make good caregivers for Alzheimer's patients. They can't cope with the changes in their mate and they live in denial. They can actually become abusive. If your mom won't get help and learn how to handle him with compassion, you may need to look at assisted living for your dad.
This doesn't mean your mom is a bad person. It just means she can't cope with the "loss" of her husband. It happens more often than one would like to think.
Carol
I know this is a hard adjustment time for them, but I'm getting very depressed myself, trying to keep up with finding and fixing all their business details as well as helping take care of the empty house. It is just overwhelming at times because it's like working in the dark. Any questions about their affairs is met with an "I don't know" and you're left to muddle around until you find the answer. Important papers are missing and that is so frustrating for me - I like everything organized. I've been on meds for depression and anxiety for years so I'm finding it a real struggle.
I guess I just needed to sound off today.
My brother's DR. has told him he needs to get away or he will get sick as well.
Can he leave them alone for a time so he can recover?
What is the law regarding this?