At some point sooner or later, MIL will cease her life here on this earth and I will have to pretend to be saddened by her passing. I will have to be worth of an Oscar, though, because I will not be saddened at all.
She was admitted to the hospital two days ago with what they "think is a kidney stone", but they haven't decided even yet what to do about it. She has diabetes and her sugar readings are always high lately, even on consistent medications and insulin. She is refusing to eat at the hospital and is very, very weak now. She hasn't kept any food down since early last Saturday.
I've had two days now of complete relaxation and it feels great. They can keep her there for a month and I would appreciate it a lot. My house is quiet with the oxygen concentrator turned off and the oscillating fan turned off, her TV turned off. Things seem normal again for a few minutes.
https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/mom-settled-in-nursing-home-152361.htm
https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/have-someone-say-I-know-what-you-mean-about-caregiving-152300.htm?cpage=10
check it out it is quite funny -husband got a view of reality... and more ;p
My sweet golden retriever "Honeybun" died yesterday. I wanted some time to "process it all." Time for me to feel the loss of my wonderful dog. I couldn't share the event with either of the 90 yr olds because .................well it just makes me tired thinking about dealing with their crazy comments.
When my MIL and mom are gone...................I will be beyond happy and relieved. It's a long shot anyway. I've got to wait for both of them before I get my house and my life back.
I expected my husband and I to be enjoying our 60's together...................didn't work out that way. I miss Bill in every corner........and now I'm missing my dog too.
A bigger issue seems to be - couldn't they qualify for a nursing home? What do you have to have your life taken up in this way? You've lost so much and you deserve your own life. You could still visit and they would have some interaction with others. I'd look into it.
Take care of yourself - that is the most important thing here.
Carol
Lastly I'll use one more saying as my two cents "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". As others have said remain dignified and stick to the "she's no longer suffering".
Most days I do okay but today I'm fragile.
I've been kind of waiting to see "which shoe will fall" but nothing is happening.
Perhaps a nursing home will be in the near future.