Had hospice care coming in my Dads home for about a month. Got to be too hard moving him just to go to comode next to bed. Only had morphine a couple times. Put him in hospice facility and now he is given morphine around the clock. I don't believe he is in pain to need it yet. They just give it to him. I was told,"Well, you want him comfortable don't you?" Or,"We're just staying ahead of things." I am so torn. Not sure that is right?
When I look back on my father's dying, I wish I had given him more pain medicine. He wasn't in a lot of pain, but I realize that it probably nagged at him a lot of the time. It made him crabby, and why should a person suffer any unnecessary pain in the last weeks or months of their life?
Is he unable to communicate with you when you think he otherwise might be able to?
If you think the morphine is causing problems, discuss your reasons and request the dose be adjusted a bit to see if that helps.
But if the morphine is not doing apparent harm, assume it is doing good, and leave it alone.
Having said that, I work in hospice. I administer morphine. The morphine usually comes after the person isn't able to swallow a pain medication anymore. Morphine comes in liquid form. I am a firm believer in staying ahead of the pain. I've seen unmedicated people who were dying and they yell and scream and moan and it's very, very traumatic for the family. When someone is living their last days it's much better to stay ahead of the pain than it is to catch up to the pain. I don't want someone's dying parent to experience even 5 minutes of pain.
Many people at the end of life become unable to verbalize their pain but when they're turned it's evident that they are in pain. I always assume the person is in pain if they're unable to verbalize it. I'd rather err on the side of caution than have that person laying there, unable to speak, locked in their own body and being in pain.