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My boyfriend is terminal with head and neck cancer, given 6 months or less. He is emotionally, verbally and a few times physically abusive. He only does this to me. Hes got 2 daughters that are blind to the situation and wont move in. He says hes fine and they dont have a clue. He's becoming a danger to himself as well. Forgetting things, losing things, spending money constantly on crazy things. He doesnt eat properly at all or follow drs directions with his meds. Hes all over the place like a child with adhd. He argues about everything and insists things have happened which havent. He says hes not afraid to die but i assume this is part of the problem. He doesnt want me to do things for him anymore. He has a g tube and doesnt eat his special liquid diet as hes supposed to. I dont know where to turn. Im the only one that sees this. If i tell the dr, he will really go crazy and even if the dr prescibed something, he wouldnt take it. Other than saying goodbye to the man i love, is there help out there? Im only a girlfriend. We're not married. I dont have rights. I feel like im dying. The stress of it all is killing me

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There is only one viable option...leave...let his children deal with him, he is not your responsibility.
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shad250 Dec 2019
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Can you get him into hospice care? In home or in a hospice facility would be best.
I'm sure that he's not in his right mind with terminal head & neck cancer, but that doesn't give him the right to abuse YOU. Either get him cared for by hospice or call his children & let them know you're leaving. Say your goodbyes and remove yourself from the situation asap, for your own sake.

Sending you a big hug and my condolences for what you're going through. It's very sad.
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It is time he is placed in in-facility hospice. You are likely looking at metastases to the brain, and there will be nothing to change that; it could in fact get worse and someone could become injured. Take him to the ER and leave him in their hands if you must; do no accept him back home and say you are not able to handle him and are afraid of his violence. This is likely not his fault nor in his control. I am so incredibly sorry for what he and your family are going through.
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He knows he's dying so he does not care anymore
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