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Sorry, this is a forum of Caregivers caring for LOs in some capacity. There is no "chat" here or professional to directly talk to. Just people who have probably shared the same circumstance your in. So, you need to give us some more background for us to offer solutions.
How old are u and he How did you get involved in his care What kind of care does he need
You can't You can not "get" someone to do something they do not want to do. And from a personal point of view I do not know if I would want someone caring for me that was being forced, coerced, bullied into caring for me. What you can do is forget trying to get them to help their dad. This gentleman should pay to have the caregivers that he needs to manage. Once his funds are depleted then the application process for Medicaid can begin. Before that though look for all the ways that he can get help from whatever resource is available. Is he a Veteran? If so the VA may be of help. A copy of his DD214 and a call or trip to the Veterans Assistance Commission and he can find out what benefits he is entitled to. Contact the Area Agency on Aging, request a needs assessment and there may be services that he would qualify for.
You self-righteously DEMAND they help you with their father?
No?
If you are caring for a boyfriend who's children refuse to help you, and you took on this care willingly, then you're on your own, really. Children are not obligated to do hands on care for their parents and why would they, if YOU are doing it FOR them, may be their rationale here. But again, you're asking a loaded question in a snarky way, so you can't expect to get any real answers.
Rethink your question; rephrase it with more details and lay it all out there so you can get some REAL answers to what is obviously a dilemma you're facing!
Have you asked them to help and they refuse? It's very common. So there is nothing you can do. You will have to find other ways to get help. Like hiring someone.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Sorry, this is a forum of Caregivers caring for LOs in some capacity. There is no "chat" here or professional to directly talk to. Just people who have probably shared the same circumstance your in. So, you need to give us some more background for us to offer solutions.
How old are u and he
How did you get involved in his care
What kind of care does he need
You can not "get" someone to do something they do not want to do.
And from a personal point of view I do not know if I would want someone caring for me that was being forced, coerced, bullied into caring for me.
What you can do is forget trying to get them to help their dad.
This gentleman should pay to have the caregivers that he needs to manage.
Once his funds are depleted then the application process for Medicaid can begin.
Before that though look for all the ways that he can get help from whatever resource is available.
Is he a Veteran? If so the VA may be of help. A copy of his DD214 and a call or trip to the Veterans Assistance Commission and he can find out what benefits he is entitled to.
Contact the Area Agency on Aging, request a needs assessment and there may be services that he would qualify for.
No?
If you are caring for a boyfriend who's children refuse to help you, and you took on this care willingly, then you're on your own, really. Children are not obligated to do hands on care for their parents and why would they, if YOU are doing it FOR them, may be their rationale here. But again, you're asking a loaded question in a snarky way, so you can't expect to get any real answers.
Rethink your question; rephrase it with more details and lay it all out there so you can get some REAL answers to what is obviously a dilemma you're facing!
reasons. If they've shown no willingness to help, don't ask again.
They can choose to help. Or not.
If not, you widen the search. If no free help is offered, you pay for it.