Mom lives with myself & 2 young adult kids, my home. She has never really made life decisions I can respect, but she speaks definitively as though her opinions carry great weight.
My kids are polite and just take her misogynistic, judgy ways, but I don’t want this for them -they’re shriveling a bit.
Fundamentally, I feel there’s nothing I can say because Ma firmly believes she is perfect.
We need some boundaries.
How to live with this? Is it possible..?
Thank you.
You don't have to live this way if you're willing to change. Be aware, your polite adult children will eventually go out in the world where they'll need to work with people of different views and experiences: rude and polite.
Do you have a plan for change?
If your mother thinks she's perfect, let her be. Doesn't mean everyone else has to think so. You certainly don't, do you?
So maybe tell Mom gently( or not so gently): to stop that, it is harmful, on the other hand maybe redirect kids to completely different views of becoming totally confident female or respectful male.
She had bipolar mental illness and was rude to everyone, including me.
Because at that age, the lesson to be learned is that one has to coexist with people whose political values differ. Rather than absorb this, I saw anecdotes every day from young people about how they’re refusing to go to Thanksgiving if there was a Trump supporter/pro lifer etc. at the table. I am neither of these things but I learned back then, and absolutely had to, that politics is just their view of the world, they have the exact same vote.