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Seems you have the same problem a lot of us have. We call them Narcissists and a number of the members have parents and family that fit this description. And it seems that the one taking care of them is the child they know they can intimidate.
For you it may be a cultural thing. Here in the US we have options but sometimes those options are not available, usually because not enough money, and the caregiver is "stuck" taking care of a person who is hard to care for. Some have taken a parent in only to find it was a big mistake. Parent has no money and is with it mentally so you can't force them to leave.
Boundries is the main thing. And there will be members who can help u with this.
Welcome, Ashanti! We're happy you're here, though I'm sorry you have a need.
Could you provide more information (like Ahmijoy above, whatever you can tell us).
One thing I can tell you is there are many of us who have been (or still are) in the same position you are. I thankfullly found this site at one of the lowest points in my life, and the good folks here helped me more than I can express. You can find comfort here knowing you're not alone (sadly).
i have lived with my aunt half my life, after my parents passed on she just changed and started calling me names , labeling. She sulks and snaps at me for no reason. when she is happy i should be too same applies when she is mad. She does things for herself and forgets about us, leading me to hustle. when there is an elderly who can support and help me.
I have absolutely nothing to do with her, I don't call her, visit her, even think about her, really.
People (including family) think it's all on me. I'M the one who should work harder to be nice. 44 years of working hard and she still openly tells me "I hate you, I have hated you since B brought you home to meet us."
WHY should I put myself in that position? I do NOT need her toxicity.
Staying with people who are so angry, sick, whatever, is simply asking for more of the same behavior. My DH has to deal with his mother and he has begged me, offered me money, anything, to go with him to her home. My answer is no and will be no until she's laid out in her casket.
Does that make me cold? No, not at all. I am self preserving. I am currently treating for cancer with chemotherapy and I feel rotten every day. What did this lovely lady say to me about the cancer? Nothing. not a word. Not even "I hope you die" which at least, would be honest.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Seems you have the same problem a lot of us have. We call them Narcissists and a number of the members have parents and family that fit this description. And it seems that the one taking care of them is the child they know they can intimidate.
For you it may be a cultural thing. Here in the US we have options but sometimes those options are not available, usually because not enough money, and the caregiver is "stuck" taking care of a person who is hard to care for. Some have taken a parent in only to find it was a big mistake. Parent has no money and is with it mentally so you can't force them to leave.
Boundries is the main thing. And there will be members who can help u with this.
Could you provide more information (like Ahmijoy above, whatever you can tell us).
One thing I can tell you is there are many of us who have been (or still are) in the same position you are. I thankfullly found this site at one of the lowest points in my life, and the good folks here helped me more than I can express. You can find comfort here knowing you're not alone (sadly).
I have absolutely nothing to do with her, I don't call her, visit her, even think about her, really.
People (including family) think it's all on me. I'M the one who should work harder to be nice. 44 years of working hard and she still openly tells me "I hate you, I have hated you since B brought you home to meet us."
WHY should I put myself in that position? I do NOT need her toxicity.
Staying with people who are so angry, sick, whatever, is simply asking for more of the same behavior. My DH has to deal with his mother and he has begged me, offered me money, anything, to go with him to her home. My answer is no and will be no until she's laid out in her casket.
Does that make me cold? No, not at all. I am self preserving. I am currently treating for cancer with chemotherapy and I feel rotten every day. What did this lovely lady say to me about the cancer? Nothing. not a word. Not even "I hope you die" which at least, would be honest.