I am trying to figure out what would be most appropriate for the frequency of visiting Alzheimer's parent. They are stage 6. They still know who I am. We have never had a good relationship and my childhood was abusive. It takes me about an hour each way to get to the facility and back. I also work 50 hours a week so have little spare time. I am feeling like initially once every two weeks and then dropping to once a month. What about others?
Now that they have acclimated we visit every other week unless we have to take them for a medical procedure. We do hover over them, they have adjusted well.
They have their own life as do we.
I visit her for ME, not her. I didn't see or talk to her for 8 months last year as I went through a grueling chemotherapy for cancer, and when I finally emerged out the other side and started to feel human, I went to see her. She wasn't even AWARE that I had not spoken nor seen her for over 8 months.
I think every other week is fine. No need to burn yourself out when she isn't even cognizant of the passage of time.
Good luck!