Mom has no money after buying groceries and gas. She owns her home and the sons living with do not pay rent. Only one son brings in income and it is $600/month in Social Security. They say they help pay food bills when needed.
Desperate requests are sent to other children when eg. no food in refrigerator pictures are sent out.
Just trying to figure out how your two brothers have caused your Mom to run out of money? I realize groceries for two more people can be expensive, but not to have any funds left over after purchasing food and gas? Something doesn't sound right.
My nephew was on Medicaid for health, he is disabled. He lived with my Mom. He got a renewal form every year. That form said he may qualify for food stamps but only if my Mom was eligible for them too.
If these two men are capable of working, they should be. Even on SS and SS disability you can make a certain amount a year until 67 and so many months and then earn all you want. I see no problem with you and other siblings helping ur Mom but I would not be supporting your brothers if they are capable of getting some kind of financial help. I think ur problem will be if Mom ever needs to leave the house or passes. What are u going to do about the brothers? Looks like they aren't capable of paying for utilities, taxes, or upkeep. Thats what I would be planning, how to get them independent now. They could easily share an apt.
I have never, since my girls were 19 and 20 going to College, supported anyone but myself and DH. I have had a daughter come back to live after losing a job but she was getting unemployment. All I gave her was a roof over her head. My nephew I helped him find resources so he could be on his own. Your brothers should be taking advantage of what is out there for them not living off Mom.
It's up to your mother to put her foot down HARD and let her sons know that they either find a way to pay X amount of money each month in rent, or they MOVE OUT by February 1st or whatever.
I would say the BOTH of these sons need to go out and get real JOBS in order to pay fair market value RENT to their mother who is putting them up in her home for FREE. Mooching should not be allowed. These sons should be helping their mother in every possible way instead of acting like grifters. Sad situation, is what this is. There are plenty of jobs out there right now, so there is no excuse as to why this pair can't work. Even with SS, he'd be allowed to earn a certain amount of income each month, which is OVER $1000.
If they can't reach a reasonable agreement, then mom can sell her house and use the proceeds to move into AL and let the 'boys' fend for themselves.
Best of luck.
If she chooses to have her sons live with her to provide care, there's not much you have to say about it.
Has mom applied for Medicaid? Are either of the sons getting paid through a Medicaid waiver program?
Has mom (or either son) applied for SNAP benefits?
Have they explored what local resources are available through the local Area Agency on Aging?
Has mom considered selling her home and moving to an AL where she would need her sons to provide care?
Are there addiction issues or dementia in play?