Every evening I get asked in a 30 second loop, when we are going home, who lives here, I know we don't live here, so why are we staying here. He has lost 20 years and I don't know what to tell him when he asks to go visit his mother who passed in 1986. His whole boyhood family have passed and there's no home to go to visit. He has begun wandering, going home I think, and was brought back by the police. He's already been kicked out of a wonderful adult daycare. What's next?
Why are you falling into the same loop that your husband is in?
Don't be lured into making sense to someone who cannot make sense himself.
"No dear, everything is just fine. We are staying here for now," then remove yourself from the repetition. The assurance that everything is OK is what he's looking for.
The diversion worked every time! He is now is a Care Home and I still take him for a drive (or bring him) a chocolate shake--he's immediately home!