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My brother is going around me and makes decisions about my life . You see I’m disabled mobility wise and he knows I have severe DDD and left me without any support to clean a 3 bedroom house. Is it legal for my brother to uproot my Mom from the only home she lived in. Please I need some kind of direction.

"https://www.agingcare.com/questions/ive-been-my-moms-caregiver-for-6-years-my-brother-took-her-when-i-got-sick-and-now-he-wont-bring-her-486429.htm"

Your story sounded familiar so I looked back and found the above post. I read your resonse to my reply where you disagreed with my explanation and said you were getting a lawyer. Did you get a lawyer?

You are disabled, how do you think you can care for Mom? Brother has to either have POA or guardianship to handle Moms affairs. In both cases, he is not obligated to keep you in the loop. I think you need to let Mom go because I do not think any government agency would allow you to care for her.

So lets talk about you. I may get the Adult Protection Agency involved. Maybe they can mediate between you and brother. I assume the house is Moms. You need to protect yourself. Also, your County should have a Disabilities dept. There are resourses out there but you have to find them.

I have a disabled nephew I oversee. I went to the Disabilities Dept and he now gets a rental voucher and lives on his own. He has a coordinator and an aide on Friday for 5 hours. The aide runs him on errands and doctor appts. Takes him to a local park. Does light cleaning.
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Hi I’m a Caregiver for my mom who has dementia. I myself am on Disability for many autoimmune disorders. It’s the hardest job I’ve ever done. My Dad died last year so it’s just Mom, me and the dog .



I'm confused. Was your mother with dementia cleaning her 3 bedroom home before your brother took her away????

How do you think you can physically care for an elder with dementia when you have all these disabilities including severe degenerative disc disease????

In your other post, you refer to your brother as being "executor" over and over again, yet do not answer the question of who holds Financial POA for mom? You hold medical, you said, perhaps you are using the word "executor" to mean Financial POA?

If your brother holds FPOA, he is under no obligation to help you financially. Morally, yes. Legally, no.

Have you spoken to an elder care attorney about all of this? Lots of them give a free consultation which would be worth your while more so than we are.

I hope you can resolve this matter between yourselves. Good luck.
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This sounds like a very complicated case.
Your severe DDD may preclude any ability to give your mother the care she now requires.
I am assuming that you have a disability caseworker. Please discuss getting access to legal aid for your complicated questions. We can have no idea of the details in your case.
I wish you the very best of luck.
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