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You cannot. If your mother is competent to confer POA on you and remove it from you then she is competent to do that. It is entirely up to her. Move away from all the pain and trouble it amounts to (I know, I do it) and enjoy your life. Visit your mother and love on her and when she is in a bad mood or has problems remind her of your Cousin's phone number and take yourself out to lunch. Have a great time. Enjoy the relief. Now IF you feel your mother is incompetent and you have PROOF of that, then you are welcome ALSO to go for guardianship of her (what a nightmare), and you will be in control of everything. Does that sound preferable. Wishing you good luck and happy lunchs without Mom.
You will not be able to get guardianship if Mom is found competent. Doesn't matter how she handles her money or not. And as said, she has to revoke cousins to re-assign u.
Lots of members have a narcissistic parent or parents. They will probably tell you to walk away. Be glad you are not involved.
It’s entirely up to your mother to revoke the current POA and reassign it to you. Why do you want it back though? If she’s a narcissist like your profile says, walk away. I mean what’s in for you if you Continue to deal with this?
I do not trust my cousin’s judgment. She has a hot org of making poor financial and personal decisions. I can take care of my mother’s affairs appropriately. My mother was angry because I looked into her homeowners insurance situation. She wasn't taking care of it, so I was trying to make sure her home and belongings were covered.
There is no rational reason for what she did. All my life she makes and breaks promises, agreements, etc. to maintain control and power. This is what narcissists do.All I tried to do is what was sensible, the same as any of you would do for your elderly parent.
It doesn’t help that this cousin is a narcissist also. She sued her own sister because she though the sister got too much inheritance. I do not trust the cousin with POA at all. I had to withdraw direct communication and contact with my mother because of the emotional distress and health issues having a relationship with her causes. At the same time, I know my father would want me to look after my mother. I am trying to be a good and dutiful child here while trying to keep my sanity.
I may eventually have to resort to pursuing guardianship if I cannot get a joint POA. I don’t want to do this but my mother has always made things much harder than they had to be my whole life.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Now IF you feel your mother is incompetent and you have PROOF of that, then you are welcome ALSO to go for guardianship of her (what a nightmare), and you will be in control of everything. Does that sound preferable.
Wishing you good luck and happy lunchs without Mom.
Lots of members have a narcissistic parent or parents. They will probably tell you to walk away. Be glad you are not involved.
and belongings were covered.
a narcissist also. She sued her own sister because she though the sister got too much inheritance. I do not trust the cousin with POA at all. I had to withdraw direct communication and contact with my mother because of the emotional distress and health issues having a relationship with her causes. At the same time, I know my father would want me to look after my mother. I am trying to be a good and dutiful child here while trying to keep my sanity.
Her actions sound like something a narcissist would do.