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my brother was hit by a motorcycle when he was 11, in a coma for 7 months and has brain damage due to the handlebars going thru his skull. He has always lived with someone or in a group home facility. He move to Georgia about 5 years ago to live with his biological mother, she ended up getting sick and the relatives that are in Georgia tricked my brother into signing POA and then had him committed into a psychiatric hospital . I spoke to him yesterday and he said a lady came and said she would take him in . I don’t know what to do at this point . He has 6 biological siblings and my mom and his biological dad that want NOTHING to do with him. I work full time , but would love for him to be closer to me so that he had someone to visit , take him out, and love him. He’s a great guy, but he needs his medication and really someone to care for him, he needs social activities, and a schedule. I don’t know if I have any rights or I can get him in an assisted living facility here in Maryland . I’m so confused at this point and just need guidance.

If you have no ability to care for him which sounds like it is a job for more than 1 person then you need to support the decisions of his caregivers. Go and visit him so that he can enjoy this communication. If you stay for a few days then offer his POA some physical support. That way you have helped him
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Chrissy2bug Sep 15, 2024
They do not have his best interest in mind. They dropped him off and has had not contact with him . They set him up. If this would have been done for the wellbeing of him , I would have 100%support and gratitude to this person. But knowing HOW they did this , and what they have gained from it , show there lack of empathy
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What you have in your brother is someone who is suffering from a severe mental handicap. Laws of guardianship work differently for mental deficits than for physical or for dementias involving aging. The law considers a person mentally incapacitated to be in charge basically of their own lives, while in fact they are seldom capable. This makes things very complex. Even in the event you were considered a guardian, it is difficult to get out of that role when you have a need to, and the role is almost impossible for someone attempting daily care of another with a mental handicap.

If your brother is currently institutionalized, I would leave this in the hands of all currently in charge of his care. I think you are very uncertain of your options, and I would be as well. This is a horrible circumstance to deal with lifelong. I would make no attempts to take on this task. As sad as it is, I think it falls under "not everything can be fixed" and I think the burden if you attempted to help would be overwhelming. Just my own personal opinion.
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I have a feeling the State of GA is his guardian. As such no one can take him out of an institution that a guardian has chosen. Who is this woman? I would be talking to the people where he is asking why can this happen. Does the relative still hold POA?
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Chrissy2bug Sep 15, 2024
I speak to my brother everyday and yesterday he told me that he will be moving to a home care Monday , that he met the lady and that she has 2 others in her home .
The “relative” that did this is someone with selfish intentions, but it still does not excuse his siblings and parents for not stepping up .
Im not sure if she still has POA or turned him over .
He has never been institutionalized in 62 years because his medication has always been monitored. The reason for this situation was due to the relative not taking him to the doctors or making sure he had his meds. When not on meds he becomes angry and agitated, and with no meds for diabetes’s, surgery was above 500. At which time they took him to a psychiatrist at the peak of no meds and they committed him.
I am very ignorant to all of this , but this is so wrong and again, everyone has turned their back on him.
Im just trying to find a way to get him to my area so at least he would be in a secure assisted living facility, but also have the relationship with me that he deserves. If I had the means and money to care for him full time , by god I would do it. But if I can do what I can , and keep him safe and happy , that’s what I’ll do . He’s a great guy with the biggest heart ever. I’m just trying to find some guidance. I appreciate everyone who is responding to me
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There are group homes that are licensed by the State. Maybe hecwill do well in one. Sadly, POA has the control.
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Chrissy2bug Sep 17, 2024
I guess I have to find out if she turned him over to the state when she had him committed.
I am going to talk to Assistant living facilities in my area, in case he can come here . Thank you for replying
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Assisted Living is private pay. They usually do not except Medicaid.
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