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Xena my heart goes out to you and your family. My daddy passed from CHF as well. It's difficult losing a parent and please know you're in my thoughts 🙏
I’m so sorry. I also lost my dad to CHF and know what an insidious disease process it is. As to grief, it’s different for us all. The communities of GriefShare have been a huge help to many, you may want to look one up in your area and attend. I’ve found it important to let the tears flow when they come and also focus on memories of happy times with my dad. You’re very correct, we do feel heartbroken when a beloved daddy passes, I also still often say daddy and always will. I wish you healing and peace
The only real answer to grief is time. Allow yourself to feel the loss but be certain to celebrate the good memories to help. Grief has to be endured. It is the cost of loving. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Of course you are lost and heartbroken. There is a song I have been hearing lately. How Do I say Goodbye. In part it says: So how do I say goodbye To someone who's been with me for my whole damn life? You gave me my name and the color of your eyes I see your face when I look at mine So how do I, how do I, how do I say goodbye?
the song is by Dean Lewis. Give it a listen. (I just watched the video😭)
The heartbreak will slowly feel better. the ache will remain sharp at times but dull over time just as wounds are supposed to heal.
For me the only way to handle grief is to celebrate the life, the goodness, the happy luck to have had someone I cared about. The relief in knowing that there would be no suffering for that person I loved. The fact that 100 of 1,000s of people came before us and will keep coming when we are gone.
If you are like me your Dad will always be with you in your heart. I am so sorry Xena, but the only way out of grief is right through it. I think only time helps.
You will feel "lost" for a while, as you say. It is a shock. It is something you can't imagine until you are IN it. Your tears are the price of so much love. Just remember also the joy.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Everyone grieves in their own way. Your dad just died today, so you need time to process it. Take time to grieve. Don’t suppress your emotions.
You are missing your dad. You know that you will never see him or be able to speak to him again. Your feelings are normal.
Some people don’t feel like it’s real and it takes a while before it sinks in.
Others find comfort that they are no longer suffering and they feel relief.
Some people are angry and they feel that the death could have been prevented somehow.
I don’t know exactly what you are dealing with at the moment. I wish you peace as you continue on with your grieving journey.
How old was your father. Is your mom still living?
In time you will remember the good times that you had with him and be more at peace.
Blessings and peace to you.
Between the loss of your FIL and your mom's cancer dx, you've just had too much thrown at you recently.
Be very kind to yourself and seek out support where you can.
Your daddy was wise in his decision. It's still a shock even when it's expected, but now he's at peace and there is nothing more to fear for him.
I'm not sure you're supposed to be able to handle the grief, not at first. Wishing you comfort.
Of course you are lost and heartbroken.
There is a song I have been hearing lately.
How Do I say Goodbye.
In part it says:
So how do I say goodbye
To someone who's been with me for my whole damn life?
You gave me my name and the color of your eyes
I see your face when I look at mine
So how do I, how do I, how do I say goodbye?
the song is by Dean Lewis.
Give it a listen. (I just watched the video😭)
The heartbreak will slowly feel better.
the ache will remain sharp at times but dull over time just as wounds are supposed to heal.
If you are like me your Dad will always be with you in your heart. I am so sorry Xena, but the only way out of grief is right through it. I think only time helps.
You will feel "lost" for a while, as you say. It is a shock. It is something you can't imagine until you are IN it. Your tears are the price of so much love. Just remember also the joy.