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So my mom with vascular dementia had a mini stroke today followed by a fall. A cough is starting but things are stable. The last couple of weeks I tried to step back to get my mental health on track and now I feel like I got kicked down. Anyone who can share some similar situation would be appreciated. Thank you

Kittykat, I'm so sorry about you mom, this seems to be the life of caregiving,

Actually I'm going through something too. And I've been doing so good with my anxiety. Some small family issues, gossipy bs. It feels like your on top of things , then , wish the rug is pulled out from under you. Nothing as drastic as yours but just thought I'd share

So I'm trying to remember how good I was doing and hold on to that knowing I will have good days again.

Ups downs ups downs, are much much better the just down.

I see your mom is 65, what you are going through must be so hard. Best of luck. Not sure if I answered your question but your not alone. I find on this forum, no one is alone.

Caregiving is so hard. 🙏🙂‍↕️
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This is what happened with my mother when she was your mother's age....mid 90s. She'd have TIAs and lots of falls from forgetting she couldn't walk. The Memory Care AL caught pneumonia too, which happens at that age. It was once called The Old Mans Best Friend for taking an elders life quickly and pretty painlessly.

If mom is coughing, get the SNF to order a chest xray stat to see if she has pneumonia. Or have her taken to the ER.

You may want to change your profile and update moms age from 65 to 95.

The beginning of the end may be in motion as we type, as happened with my mom.

Good luck Kitty, I hope mom feels better soon.
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Anxietynacy Jun 23, 2024
Oh my that changes everything, I'm sorry
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Sorry about this.
You have a diagnosis on this, do you? You have been told that this fall was a result of a "mini stroke" or a trans-ischemic attack? She has seen medical? If I recall your mom is a DNR status?

I am uncertain what you mean by "mini stoke". Did you see temporary weakness or slurring speech that went away? Perhaps facial droop?
Because TIA's are often harbingers of a REAL impending stroke. (some estimates suggest that TIAs result in real CVA in 1/3 of patients within one year).
So glad she seems uninjured by her fall. You certainly don't need more complications.
As I wrote you I think in another link of yours, falls, sadly, in the very elderly can be the beginning of the end.

You say a cough is starting? Do you feel/were you told that this cough is related to the stroke?
Does your Mom seem to be swallowing well?
I believe, and if I recall, your mom is mid-90s and in your care. I can recall Lealonnie saying her Mom fell almost 80 times (if I remember correctly). They can be so common with age. Many of us are well aware of falls, and often the ALFs don't send anyone to ER unless there is evidence of pain or the head was bumped.

Good luck Kitty.
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