I am Back with another question to the board: As sole caregiver I have an extreme amount of outside responsibility weighing on me everyday, Mom cannot understand that for obvious reasons. and always thinks I am upset with her. 99% of the time it is NOT HER but everything else around myself. sometimes it shows but I try to keep it shielded from her. How to handle this?? thank you
People who have full control of how they spend their days -- and have been on this track for decades -- take umbrage at how fast the rest of us run around.
Even in her clear-headed years, my mom could not comprehend that my working-full-time-and-then-some azz STARTED my chores for the day when she was on her 12th hour of putzing around. So frustrating!
that is her to a Tee
thank you
I started disecting her complaints and the one just a little bit ago was "I am scared" scared of what I ask "I dont know goddamnit" well mom if you cant tell me then I can not fix the problem. try again caregiver says, mom "I am afraid if i tell you you will get mad or laugh at me" caregiver no mom I wont try me "mom ok well i am scared that you are going to leave me" caregiver no mom i am not leaving you or leaving you anywhere you dont want to go, period is that clear. mom "I think so" good got that settled so no more getting scared of being abandoned ok mom "i think so"
what she is doing is working herself up into a heartattack eventually if she lkeeps doing this. I am telling her I know she has been a homemaker housewife for 70 years
but now mom your retired let us 2 family take care of you and you sit back and enjoy it. so we will see.