Mom has had several problems this past year that have in my opinion sped up her dementia. Starting last year with H-PYLORI that caused her to seep blood from her lower intestine. Less than a year later she had a UTI so bad it went septic. This last was a week ago. She's in a rehab because even if she ends up doing long term I want her to get stronger. They're concerned with a few places that are close to causing pressure sores and turn her every 2 hours. I understand the need to do this but they call her name until she responds then turn her I guess it's policy but she hasn't slept more than two hours at a time and has become unresponsive to me or anyone basically. She's only been here 5 days. She was at the hospital for 9 right before she came here and I had high hopes for her. The first two days she seemed to be getting better now she's not even acknowledging me.
How are her vitals? Is she taking fluids? Getting up for the bathroom? The therapy might be just too much for her now. I would try to talk to the doctor.
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I have my mom on hospice due to end-stage Alzheimer's disease. I work very VERY hard to keep her mobile. She had a few bouts with UTIs one with a 101 fever which I called 911 (I told hospice I called them). I told the ER doctor I will NOT hospitalize her because that is risky in itself for someone her condition. They gave her a bag of normal saline, a dose of cefepine in the vein, and sent home on Keflex. She got well pretty quick--at least the UTI went away. and she stayd at home.
It's also very confusing, and exhausting to be moved from place to place...
Just wait it out, see what she does. She may be getting ready to leave...or not. One just never knows.
Be at peace.
The last one that I/we had for my husband was one that had air chambers and they would fill and release and you could set the control as to how you wanted it to do that. It took a bit of getting used to as it was a bit noisy. The first mattress we had was a memory foam with air flow so that also relieved some pressure but not as much as the last one we had.
And the nice thing about the last one is because of the air chambers it did make moving and changing him easier and I hope more comfortable for him.
If you don't feel Mom isn't doing well in rehab, have her discharged. Ask the doctor to order in home therapy. Like said Dementia patients do not do well out of their element. If she goes LTC, they do therapy too.
I totally sympathize. With all she's been through, she would probably benefit immensely from some peace and quiet and a good night's rest. Please continue to advocate for her. Trust your instincts. You are doing a great job!!!
I totally understand that, it could create terror for people and that would be very cruel to anyone in this situation.
My Mom was on thyroid meds for Graves desease, everyother day. While in the hospital the Dr. took it upon himself to stop Moms med without telling me or consulting with her specialist. I found this out only after a care meeting at rehab (which Mom was in at least 10 days before I had one). I was furious. I was told it was stopped because her numbers were good. Her numbers were good because she was on the med.
My Uncle was in rehab because of a reaction to a lung med he had been put on. He almost died. My Aunt was a stickler in asking what he was being given. My Uncle wrote down every medication he was given. When the nurse came in to give him a shot, she was asked what she was giving him...it was the same med he almost died from. Seems they don't read the info from the hospital.
I had a paper with all Moms meds listed. Then I listed all her procedures/operations and dates. Then I listed all her doctors, their specialities and contact info. Three of which had privileges at the hospital Mom went to. I was waiting for Mom's discharge when I was told they were waiting on a Neurological consult. I asked who had they contacted, it wasn't my Moms Dr. I asked why they didn't call her Dr. in since he has privileges there.
You have to be your own and LOs advocate. I am lucky. I have an RN in the family so when in doubt, she gets called.
You can have the doctor order Skilled Nursing for her 3 or more times a week at the home. I have a Urinary Catheter and have skilled nursing at the moment. My nurses come every week.
Good Luck and God Bless
Especially if elder is incontinent - wet from urine/feces breaks down the skin; makes skin weak -. leads to sores or makes pressure sores much worse. Goal is to keep skin clean & dry w/ proper diapers, ointments & antiseptic powder to promote skin to heal. I also give mom hydrated collagen peptides (unflavored powder) mixed in with her protein shake to help her overall skin.
My mom suffers w/ dementia (15+ yrs) & is incontinent. I cared for my dad & mom 24/7 for 7 mos until dad fell & I had to place him them in licensed board & care private residence...mom followed 'cuz she asked for dad everyday / & nite. Max 6 guests in home w/ alternating 2-person caregiver teams working 24/7 (4) days a week. Teams rotate. Each team cares for my mom; her diaper is checked / changed every 2-3 hours & at first sign of any wound (always on her butt; where she sits) they lie her in bed (off her butt) avoid pressure in area....
Alternate her lying on her right side to left side accordingly until her wound is better. Hospice nurse checks my mom's vitals / wounds etc 2xs/ week. Nurses
/caregivers should know what to do & should make rommendations to you...ask questions. I suggest being "very proactive" in your loved one's care. Ask questions & drop by unannounced to check on staff, overall status of things in household & quality of food, etc.
Everyone's comments are great; wishing you courage & strength. This is the hardest job I've ever faced; I lost over 20 lbs & feel like I aged 10+ years from all the unforeseen pressures. This experience is a wake up call to all us baby-boomers to think & plan ahead - Start conversations now w/ your spouses, children, friends about aging, illness, elder care & your eventual death. Let's stop or minimize the horrible "shock of reality" when one steps into caregiving. Most of our parents just weren't prepared mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually & sadly financially.
FEAR often drives them to argue, be controlling & demanding instead of being gracious in accepting help from loved ones & strangers. I pray to keep learning & that I choose a different path for myself than my dad....he made it very hard for anyone (family / medical / friends / caregivers) to help him in his last days....he was just afraid & angry.
May God's peace & strength be with each of you & your loved ones.