She is 82 me 55 I pay for mtg, insurance, food, etc. I can't save any money to move out with because I pay everything toward the house and my family.
She says she'll sell the house to get me out. Then she doesn't want to sell the house. She goes back and forth and her mind is getting worse everyday.
She will forget something 2 min. after saying. I am taking care of her. She can't even remember her medication any more. I promised till the day i die I will take care of her because I owe her so much.
But its hard when someone wants you gone and hates you more and more each day.
It's difficult to care for a person with dementia. I'd try to get some help from her doctor, if you can get her there. Explain to the doctor how she is behaving. Sometimes, meds can help with agitation and anxiety. In certain stages of dementia, the patient is difficult and protecting them is a challenge. I would read a lot about dementia and ways to do that. If can be very stressful. I'd try to get some support to help you.
But from what you describe, your Mom sounds like she has dementia and needs some specialized care. I hope the process will go well for you!
If Mom can't afford the house on her own, she would need to sell before foreclosure takes place.
Now the crystal ball moment, too bad we can't see into the future, and what if Mom's dementia becomes to a point where she needs a higher level of care, like 168 hours per week [no one person can be sole caregiver, it would be physically impossible] but she cannot afford to self-pay for the cost. Then she would need to apply for Medicaid, and Medicaid will put a lien on her house.
Now in some States if your Mom was in need of a nursing home and you could prove you cared for her in her own home for a certain number of years in her final stages of dementia, then Medicaid won't place a lien. It varies from State to State.
An update would be great if you have any time to type.
M88