Anyone else feel sad when there really is no one to remember their birthday? It’s almost as if they aren’t supposed to matter any more? My husband remembered because I put it on his calendar every year. No children, no family close by, no friends. 65 in my mind is an important milestone in a life. I bought myself flowers, a balloon and decorated the table. But it feels so pathetic. I came here because for years this forum has always been helpful and supportive. If this happens to you, how do you handle and stop feeling sorry for yourself? ( P.S. I have no friends for deeply engrained psychological reasons stemming from traumatic childhood. Decades of therapy, major behavioral changes, medications, has not yet completely changed this and it may never change). Thank you for being there ❤️
I was not celebrated by my family growing up and when I got married it continued. My former MIL only gave me cards once i had produced a grandchild.
My son was born 3 days before my birthday, so he got all the birthday parties, cakes etc and 3 days later nothing for me. I certainly did not need another cake in the house, but no cards, not even ones the kids made, nothing.
It hurts, it really hurts., No matter what we do for ourselves that day.
I knew no one was going to celebrate my 50th, so I took myself to Las Vegas and saw Elton John, a circus and had an incredible meal out.
Having a lack of friends is hard too. I was always told by my Mum that nobody would ever been my friend and I was unlovable. It is very hard for me to maintain friendships or hold onto multiple ones at a time. My last friendship ended last year.
After 6 years of my being there for her, (moves, illness,cancer scare, hospitalizations, family matters) the one time I needed support I was ghosted. Calls were not returned, texts remained unanswered. It makes it hard to open up to another friendship when the last one caused so much pain.