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My mother has Alzheimer's, I'm concerned about the constant employee turnover at her facility and worry about the care she's receiving. I'd like to have her come to my home to live but my mother is wheelchair bound and incontinent, I have lupus so I'd need some help. Does the VA have any programs available to help?

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OMG! Her care would be more than you could handle even if you were in good health. She would require 24/7 care, and that would mean you having to hire aides to be available 24/7.
If you're not happy with her current Memory Care facility, doesn't it make much more sense to just be looking for another Memory Care facility, instead of bringing her to your home, where you know good and well you could not handle the physical aspects of her care without round the clock hired help?
It just doesn't seem to make good sense to jeopardize your own health for your mom, when she's only going to get worse. I'm sorry that you feel that bringing her to your home is the only option. There has to be a better answer out there. I hope you find it.
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You'd have to check, but in my experience, and this is only MY experience, the VA does not seem to have the capability to admisnister the qulaity of care you'd want for mom. I'm sorry if this offends anyone! I'm just being honest.

First you need to ascertain whether mom is even eligible for ANY kind of coverage. Then research out doctors, etc., because she will need a primary dr to go to.

I would think long and hard about bringing mom home, even WITH aides, you will be alone a lot with her and just the sheer magnitude of your own health issues may prove just too much for you.

It's been a horrible year and CG's have burned out and left for other professions--or just burned out. Hopefully in the next months we will see a more return to 'normal'.

Read what you wrote: your mom is incontinent, wheelchair bound AND has Alzheimer's. Ane ONE of those conditions is a difficult care situation.

People here are desperately TRYING to get their LO'S INTO facilities.

Other than the turnover of employees--what are your real concerns? Most of all, is mom happy? That should be first on the list. I wouldn't upset the applecart.
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Please don't do this. I cannot begin to tell you how hard it is to care for someone alone (or even with help). Remember that nursing homes/memory cares have a ton of people who care for the residents, and wheelchair transfers and diaper changes can require more than one person unless you have lift. That means that if you have help, that's what you'll have -- help. You won't be able to let them do the work, but they'll simply be helping you with a two-person job. You'll be completely wiped out.

Have you spoken about your concerns to the administration at your mom's place? Do you have actual concrete issues of concern, or are you just worrying because of the turnover? Talking to the executive director should be your first step, and if you still aren't satisfied, then I'd agree with funkygrandma and suggest you look into another facility. Just remember, though, that any move -- even to your house -- is very disrupting to dementia patients.

Establishing open, non-confrontational communication with nursing home staff is the best thing you can do to ensure your mom gets excellent care. I'd make the effort to truly understand what's going on at your mom's place before taking any drastic moves like bringing her home, because I guarantee that plan won't last long and there'll be another terrible disruption to your mom's life.
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I would not do this especially since you have Lupus. Anything you get thru the VA will take a while to receive especially if Mom is the spouse and not the Vet. Medicaid the same. It doesn't happen overnight.
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Not to be negative but no matter what services you contact, in the end, you will have issues with people not showing up. If she is wheelchair bound and cannot support her weight to transfer, she may be a 2 person transfer which won't work at home. If you are concerned about her care, schedule a care conference to discuss your concerns, go see her more often or change the facility but I don't suggest you bring her home.
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Tldarke, I suggest that you contact the VA's social work office in Cleveland at 216-791-3800 ext 64230. They can tell you what assistance is available for your mom, can help you assess the care she is currently receiving, and can help you find out if her care is even feasible with assistance in your home, and if it isn't, then they can help you find a better facility for her. The VA's social work office in Boise, Idaho, was extremely helpful for my dad and me. Best wishes for you and your mom.
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According to the VA updates I get, it has been expanding support for caregivers.   I agree with Bicycler; find out what's available, especially their support for respite care.

You might also explore what additions or alterations the VA can make to accommodate your mother if she lives with you, but also find out the timeline.   It might be awhile before the VA could make repairs or other changes/additions to accommodate your mother's needs.

My father's VA social worker told us that the VA has some volunteers who provide respite care.  Unfortunately, there were none in our area. 

An acquaintance from my father's church also told us that she works through the county administration to also provide respite care.  

The American Legion also provides assistance in qualification and data preparation; they helped us, and it was so much easier and quicker than if I had filled out the sometimes confusing forms myself.
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