She has dementia is on antipressants. If I go over she is not sick. She has been doing this for years. I feel sorry for her but she does it to get us over there. I know that she is lonely but she is not pleasant to be around. She lives in assisted living but will not do the activities with them. She says they are old and do not do anything she does not do much either. Walks to the store that is very close and watches TV. She just keeps pushing you and trying to make you feel guilty. She also expects us to get her a newspaper all the time.
"Mom, I know you are lonely. I see on the ALF schedule that there is a sing-along this afternoon, and also bingo at 2:30. Why don't you go to one of those today, and I'll see you tomorrow morning. We can have breakfast."
MIL is in a safe place, where her basic needs are being met. You have to make some decisions about what you want/can do for/with her, and stick to it.
I agree with Jeanne's suggestion to call the RN or SW at the AL when she says she feels sick; I would also talk to her doctor, because it sounds as though her antidepressant meds need tweaking.