I'm helping an aging uncle deal with a lot of his life problems, and my mother resents the time I spend helping him, even though she is my first priority. The last time she said something about it, I told her that it's not all about her, which I immediately regretted. Usually I can hold my words. Now she's even more upset with me. Any suggestions?
Well, Mom didn't like the recliner being moved because it just didn't look good in that location. That's when I said something similar to "it's not all about you". That was a side of Mom I never knew existed, and it took me by surprise.
I just let it pass, as Mom probably realized this time she wasn't the star of her own show.
If your mother demands your undivided attention and resents any time you spend on anything else, you've got a problem.
Why do you feel the need not to point out her selfishness?
Wolf do not feel bad for speaking the truth.