Hi all, I'm looking for suggestions for where to take my Dad to eat when I visit him from OOT. Background: I drive to his city and stay in an Airbnb for a week at a time when I visit. Thru the winter when I was there, I always brought casseroles etc. for us to have for lunch and heated them in the microwave at the LTC. Now that the weather is getting warmer I'd like to get him out more when I visit but it makes meals a bit of a challenge. I don't want to turn this into daily meals at restaurants due to the costs involved and am happy to prep whatever meals we have but I'm at a loss of where to eat. Certainly parks for a picnic are an option (weather permitting) but that's the only thing I've come up with. I'd love to have him come to the Airbnb where I'm staying but more often than not the accomodation has a flight of stairs and it's worrisome with him on a walker so not an option. There's a lovely garden at the LTC but he wants to go off the premises. Altho this may seem locale specific, I'm hoping some of you have run into the same situation and have some tips.
Thanks in advance.
If he has friends or families who have passed he might enjoy taking a flower or stone to their graves.
Look up historical sites that might have monuments or statues to visit.
Airports, bodies of water, like a dam or nice bridges or ferrys where birds hang out or people fish or ducks swim by.
University or school campuses might be accessible and have scenic spots. Large hotel lobbies can be enjoyable and sometimes a pianist is providing back ground music if you need a place to pop in and be refreshed. I have a friend who lives in a tiny condo in Chicago. She thinks of the large hotel next door as her living room where she meets friends.
Large hospitals sometimes have the same ambiance.
Public golf courses. Any large manicured area is beautiful to look at driving by, through or parked in a nice spot.
Places where he could hold a puppy or see aquariums would be fun to visit. We use to take our young daughter to a feed store that was located in the middle of a huge city where they often had parrots and a variety of chickens and pigeons. Sometimes several breeds of bunnies. Often a box of furry kitties or puppies. She called it the “littlest pet store”. That could be before or after a meal. If you find some places that pique his interest to visit then he might agree to eat at his facility after the visit out. That would make it less expensive for you and he would still get out.
Little league parks where kids are playing baseball might be fun.
Book stores often have comfy seats and large restrooms. Maybe not a place to eat but I know If someone took me to a bookstore when I am past driving for myself I would love it. They often have a coffee shop attached.
Some large grocery stores have booths or tables and chairs and you can buy a sandwich to split or get a cup of soup and watch the frazzled mom’s for a few minutes with their toddlers.
Farmers markets can be fun and with the proper supplies, a paring knife, a few wipes, a fresh peach or pear can be enjoyed or sliced tomatoes and fresh bread. A couple of folding lawn chairs can enable a picnic almost anywhere.
You might go to a visitors center or chamber of commerce office and find brochures and suggestions for the Area.
Antique malls can be fun to spend a few min in if they aren’t overfilled. Also sometimes you can find old fashioned 5 and dime stores. Thrift stores can be fun and places he will see other seniors out and about and of course there are senior centers where you could get a different meal.
Western stores or farm implements stores or hardware stores can be fun to poke around. Perhaps you could take photos of him at the different places you take him and make a scrapbook or photo album for him to look through when you are away. You can stop in many drug stores and print out your photo of the day and have it ready to paste in the book the next day. Then he gets to enjoy his ventures more than once.
Many art galleries have openings and tasty morsels along with wine on certain Fridays of the month. That might be more for you than dad. I’m making myself tired.
I suppose consider dad’s interests and yours and then think what is easy for him to navigate. Does the facility have a transport chair you can borrow? I think you can sometimes rent those. I agree that the food is secondary to just getting out and creating a feast for the senses. Small bites otherwise.
I love your idea. Let us know how it goes.
I'll definitely need to take him to a Farmer's Market since he frequently has mentioned he's missing his golden delicious apple since they don't have them at the nursing home.
Thanks for the thought you put into this response. That's load of ideas I'll be able to use!
We don't enjoy eating out so when we are traveling we will stop and get lunch meat, bread and pre cut veggies to have a make shift meal. One of my faves is bread with a nice cheese and mustard and in my day a glass of champagne.
They now sell tuna in a bag that is all ready to put on bread for a sandwich. Sit in the car and watch the world.
You are a blessing to your dad, for sure.
There was a lady at the nursing home that would get a wheel chair van. It was like a cab that would take her to the mall to meet her family for lunch. Thought that was really cool she could do that. It got her out and made her feel like she was still part of society.
But as others have said, it's sometimes more about the visit... make up a picnic and have lunch with him outside at his facility if there are tables. Red checkered table cloth, potato salad, fried chicken, lemonade... whatever dad likes.
Sounds real strange but many hospitals have pretty good cafeterias now and that might be an option if you are close to one. The access would be great and the selection would be varied.
If you are concerned about time it might take..go after lunch rush or before.
I was given some cards a member of one of my Support Groups was given or purchased..they were business size cards and stated.."The person I am with has Alzheimer's...Please be patient." But the card could be adapted to many conditions.
I am sure there are Airbnb's that are accessible maybe check that out as well.
There's always the food court at the mall, mall walking is great exercise too.
Farm Boy has interesting food and an eating area (but that might be as expensive as a restaurant)
Have you been to the civic gardens at Springbank and Wonderland?
How about a day at the beach - if you want to take a longer trip the beach at Goderich is very senior friendly.
Goderich is definitely a possiblility if not in June, there's always July or August. (I used to have a sales territory that covered Bayfield and Goderich so that would be a great drive in the autumn too.) I'm kicking around Rock Glen or even Sarnia/Point Edward for their Slots. He's never been much of a beach guy but you've brought to me Mackie's down at Port Stanley.
Thanks for reminding me of some of these great options!
How nice that you want to plan some outings with him while you are there. Do, consider his ability and your limitations on what you can do.
Ask the facility where he is living to see what ideas they may have. And they are very familiar with his abilities.
But does he like the great outdoors or is he hankering after a bit of downtown?
??? Why do I think you're in Ontario? Am I just having random thoughts :/ or did it come up before???
And yes, you're quite correct, it's SW Ontario (London area) so there should be an abundance of places. I believe I'd mentioned Ontario previously so great memory and thx!
Look for local fire department/ church suppers, fish fries and pancake breakfasts.