Have any of you raised your voice or gone on about something too much? Feeling horrible with guilt!
Hello I sometime become very frustrated with my step dad because he is always on the computer doing what I don't know but things are neglected. Feeling bad for being persistent on my step-dad getting exterminator to get rid of bees? I was stung twice in the same area and swollen up severely and in pain. I was adamant and I guess giving my Mom pressure if they didn't get an exterminator to get rid of the wasps nest. Then my Mom was upset because I was going on about it! I feel really guilty when I am not patient with them both. I tend to go on about certain things and raise my voice, but I was worried I would get stung again it happen twice in 2 weeks and it is very painful. I even said if they don't do it I can't come to work but they didn't care he said it was to expensive but has the money!
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Wasps are a different story. You'll need to do some research to determine which species the insects are, then research wasp elimination to find ideas how you can remove them yourself.
If you're stung again and your skin begins to swell, go to the ER. You may be allergic.
Yellow jackets are another species - I've been stung by bees and yellow jackets - the latter are much, more aggressive and the stings are more painful.
Stop waiting for your parents to do something - do this for them and protect all of you.
Some interesting facts about wasps. 1. They are cloned sisters. 2. Entrance to the nest is determined through scent, so, fascinatingly… 3. They MUST get back to the nest by nightfall. If they don't, even if they survive the night outside the nest, they will never be allowed back in because their scent will have worn off and the guard wasps will kill them. I actually ended up feeling a bit bad about that when the emergency exterminator plugged a small hole in a wall where they'd got into my living room, trillions of them, and explained that I'd be able to go back in perfectly safely the next morning for that reason - they'd all be dead. So they were. It looked like a wasps' nuclear winter in my house next day. But generally I have no pity when it comes to wasps, I must admit - all that baloney about how they're more frightened of you than you are of them blah blah blah. Are they 'eck as like - I was weeding a flower bed, minding my own business, and one of them came up and stung me on the FACE! For nothing!!! That meant war…
But meanwhile ring round and get some estimates, because this is really not a big deal for an exterminator and it really shouldn't cost too much.
I've never been stung by a wasp, I've lived around them for years and they don't bother me at all. Of course, I've never let one land on me. That would be asking for it. I step out of her way and let her go about her business. The bad ones to sting are the things we called sweat bees. Yellow jackets are sneaky, too. They land on you softly, then sting if you move wrong.
Honey bees and big wasps are okay, since I'm not allergic. Sweat bees and yellow jackets have no excuse for their rudeness.
But you do mention bees and wasps as if they are interchangeable, and they are not.
There are many remedies for relieving the pain of a sting. Meat Tenderizer, Ammonia, Benedryl spray, an ice cube, paste made from baking soda and water. Those are but a few. Be sure that you are prepared when you are at their house.
Yes, I do rant and rave occasionally. And usually it's over some little something. I can handle the big stuff, it's the little stuff that sets me off, LOL.
Stepping out of the wasp's way and letting the wasp go about her business, a good caregiving idea when under attack! Sneak back late at night to administer that powder (or medication), then sneak away again, heh heh heh!
If all else fails, RUN!
Find a way to be heard, understood, and acknowledged. Don't allow family to devalue you, you deserve better. You know you are right, a lone reed crying out for justice and to be heard. You, and every human being should be heard. I hear you, and support your efforts!
I have twice had to stay in hotels in my own city until mold mitigation got done by the people in my family who were NOT deathly allergic to the stuff. Ranting for hours would not have been good, but voting with my feet worked. I can handle minor cleanups with an N-95 mask, and I could be a spokeswoman for the Tilex company, but if they do something negligent again and we have a major problem I would do the same thing again.
COULD IT BEE me, you are so exactly right, Caregivers are humans too, even though we don't act like it sometimes.
If they are still around repeat the next night. Just don't kill the bees a bee keeper will take those for free that is unless you are way south and they are killer bees then pay the exterminator. Cheaper than the ER
You must be mad as a hornet's nest, to use a common saying. Can you write down in words what you yelled, or would it even be legal to post? Anyone would be overwhelmed! How are you now?
One example, I cannot be my parents full-time chauffeur, yet my parents [mid-90's] want to go here, there, everywhere. So what does my Dad say, "I think I will start driving again".... he hasn't driven in 6 years.... so I exploded when he said he will drive. I had visions of him and Mom being in a serious wreck injuring/killing others, and his whole estate gone due to a lawsuit with no where for them to live. And me dragged into the middle of it because I couldn't drive Dad to the barber shop :P
I've been stung by yellow jackets on 4 different occasions, the last if I remember correctly, was when they stung in formation. Seriously, there was a V of welts on my arm, 26 stings in all. I wasn't aware that they practiced stinging in military precision.
Yellow jackets are nasty little buggers.