I have an elderly relative, a WWII vet, who now needs nursing care. He went to a nursing home for rehab after an infection, but has not progressed since then, and has gotten weaker. He is 98 years old, and since this episode has become no longer able to reliably get up and move around (i.e. bathroom or feeding himself). The Nursing Home wants him to leave after Medicare stops paying. Apparently they only pay for a certain number of days.They are saying that they won't take new Medi-Cal patients. The VA says that a vet has to have been disabled before discharge and they won't take him. His assets are nearly gone, and no one can provide a bill for the amount already incurred.
I think the VA is not telling you the truth. Look at some articles about getting benefits for vets on this site.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/VA-benefits-for-veterans-and-their-caregivers-136403.htm
It covers the veteran and the veteran's spouse.
Find a nursing home that will take medicaid for it sounds like he would soon qualify. Once you find a nursing home that will take medicaid talk with the social worker there about helping you get medicaid for him.
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https://www.agingcare.com/articles/Vet-assistance-for-Alzheimer-s-and-Dementia-Care-136878.htm
"Enroll the veteran for VA medical services. Call toll-free 1-877-222-VETS (1-877-222-8387), or complete an online enrollment application form, or call your nearest VA Medical Center or VA Community-Based Outpatient Clinic and ask for an enrollment coordinator.
Talk with a patient care coordinator (usually a social worker) at the VA facility of your choice to determine what services are appropriate and available for your situation. "