Is there a true benefit of POA being local?
I am meeting with my parents attorney, along with my parents to discuss their Medical and financial POA's and advanced directives. I live hundreds of miles away, across many states, and I am anticipating that they will want a local close friend to be their primary POA and for me to be secondary.
Is there really any benefit in this day and age with electronic communications, or is having a local POA important for getting things taken care of in the event my parents fall ill or incapacitated?
This close family friend is also named as co-trustee of my parents trust, and when I asked why, the explanation was because she was local. At a previous visit, the attorney said that as co-trustees of the trust, we could act independently from one another, we didn't need to both agree or both sign everything.
However, I have heard that with POA if we are co-agents, we will have to both sign and agree on everything. So we will have to determine a primary.
I'm not going to lie, I am offended that I wouldn't be chosen as primary unless being local really makes a difference.
I'm already offended that I'm not primary trustee of the trust. I feel that the real reason is because of lack of trust, although I have given no reason. I'm a very responsible adult. They have assured me that it has more to do with distance.
When it comes down to it, I'm going to take care of my parents regardless, because I am that type of person, but I worry that they are making it harder for me!
I have yet to convince them to move to where I live, I've tried.
Any input would be greatly appreciated.
6 Answers
Popular Questions
Related Questions
- As POA I have had to miss many days off work for hospital stays and doctor appointments. Can I be compensated if my aunt whom I am POA agrees?
- How do I remove a petition to gain guardianship?
- My sister is POA for my Mother, does she have to show me bank statements?
- What is the difference between DPOA and MPOA?
My parents named my brother who lives across the country as their financial POA. It was a matter of feeling that business was a man thing. I am the healthcare POA. I guess you could say they trusted me with their life, but not their money. :-/ We got around the problems this caused by adding my name to the bank accounts and I set up their utility accounts to be managed online. I got a special POA to handle the property tax and we file their income tax online. So I do all the functions of the financial POA without having the actual POA.
It was rather funny. My mother's friend lawyer went through extra trouble to get a form for the property tax POA. He didn't want to do the simpler regular POA for me. He said I would have the power to wipe my mother out if he did. What a dummy. I'm on her accounts. If I wanted to wipe her out, I could do that without a POA. (roll eyes) Strange how some people assume the worst in others without knowing their character.
Anyway... if your parents' friend is trustworthy, it would probably be easiest if he/she had the POA. I don't believe that their has to be agreement between POAs for either of them to act on your parents' behalf. It just means that they have given two people the authority to do things for them when they can't.
A distant proxy might not be as familiar with the medical situation simply because of the inability to observe it upclose.
However, as to the financial and legal issues, a proxy can handle them remotely, as WindyRidge, one of our posters, is doing for his parents 1200 miles away.
The attorney is right: proxies can be named to act jointly or independently, as set up for my father in both his DPOA, Will and Trust. It was set up that way for my sister as well. That way, either person can make the decision for financial or legal matters. You don't have to determine a primary proxy.
However, given that this person will have financial and legal authority, I think it would be wise for you and her/him to agree on certain ground rules and standards or baselines on handling their finances.
There's no reason why you can't handle checking, bill paying, investments, etc. from a distance. If it comes to a house sale, sale of stocks or disposal of other assets, I think you should be involved and not leave this to a close friend.
It wouldn't hurt to establish some procedures whereby you each divide the responsibilities, and/or provide each other of notifications when you act on behalf of your parents.
I can understand your position; I would feel a bit insulted as well, but I think your parents in their own minds feel the issue of proximity is important.
Do you know this friend at all?
The final documents were assembled, with "executed counterparts", which weren't the original pages but were print-outs of executed pages.
This enabled closings and document execution to occur more rapidly than had been possible when all parties had to sign in front of each other.
Signature pages were prepared for electronic execution and notarization by notaries in the specific jurisdictions.