There isn't much on here about husbands that care for their wives. I expect my wife has Parkinson's, but there are no neurologists that will see her until 5 months from now (July). In the mean time her tremors continue to multiply. It started with her left arm/hand and now has spread to her mouth/jaw and right hand. Her memory is gone. I will put on an overnight diaper, but she gets up an hour later and replaces it, with much difficulty. Any type of sexual contact is gone. I do everything for her. I seldom get more than 30 minutes away from her when she gets lonely. We have no friends, and any family is at least 3 hours away. I'm isolated and burned out. I can't afford to have someone stay with her and insurance/medicare won't cover anything, I'm guessing until she is diagnosed? Our family doctor gave up on her, thus the referral to a neurologist in July, where I am hoping she can get some help with her symptoms.
We've only been married 6 years. She is 75 and I am 65. I never saw this coming. I am committed to the marriage vows, better or worse. I guess I need some advice as to how much is expected of me.
If your wife's tremors are increasing, I would get her to the ER of the best teaching hospital you have access to that has a neurology department.
You need to find out right away if this is an acute condition, or something that can actually wait until July.
On a broader note, I think that as spouses, our job is to ADVOCATE for our loved ones; if hands on care alone is too much, you need to hire aides or get her into an appropriate facility. There is no disloyalty in getting help.