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I used to co own a cleaning company ,, and we had a client who was a bit of a hoarder and her son lived in the basement. I had the joy of cleaning his shower,, where he peed instead of the toilet. I gagged alot! I would start the water on hot and let it run while I cleaned his room. And he was in his 40s and no issues,, just an A..hole. Not my water bill,, not my problem!
I’m wondering if he pees in the empty tub because his aim is not too good anymore, and he thinks it will be less obvious than if he misses the toilet - especially if you have fluffy things on the floor. It might be worthwhile seeing if he would pee sitting on the toilet seat. My DH does this at night because it’s quieter, and we are both very light sleepers.
Some men seem to think that its ‘cissy’ to pee sitting down, which of course is rubbish, but it might explain what’s going on. A change of habit is a lot less drastic than moving him out!
You have nothing on your profile about FILs health problems and if Dementia is involved. I kind of wish my Dad had used the tub. I was cleaning his bathroom everyday. If he had, he would also be rinsing it out. If you don't have a hand held shower head, get one and have him rinse the tub out. If this is because of Dementia, I would start looking for a place for him because its only going to get worse. If he can afford it, Memory care. If not, a nice Long-term care facility with Medicaid paying for his care.
I’m with everyone else on this matter. Be extremely grateful that he isn’t peeing all over the house!
Yeah, it’s annoying but it could be a whole lot worse.
You haven’t gone into detail about your father in law. Is he visiting your home? Does he live at your home? Does he have dementia? Please fill in the blanks for us.
You begin to accompany him when he uses the bathroom. End of story. There is nothing in your profile about FIL If he is not cognizant then accompanying him EACH time he goes to the bathroom is a must. If he is cognizant and he is living with you then hubby puts his foot down and begins the process of looking for another place for him. Cleaning the bathroom from this point on, until FIL moves out is now your husbands job.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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This can’t get better, and your children don’t deserve to have this situation in their home.
Good luck!
Be glad that he is using the tub, and not somewhere worse I guess.
Worry about what's coming next.
That's pretty much what I would do. Then I would tell the kids, have a good laugh, and hope FIL wasn't right!
Some men seem to think that its ‘cissy’ to pee sitting down, which of course is rubbish, but it might explain what’s going on. A change of habit is a lot less drastic than moving him out!
Welcome to the world of dementia.
You have nothing on your profile about FILs health problems and if Dementia is involved. I kind of wish my Dad had used the tub. I was cleaning his bathroom everyday. If he had, he would also be rinsing it out. If you don't have a hand held shower head, get one and have him rinse the tub out. If this is because of Dementia, I would start looking for a place for him because its only going to get worse. If he can afford it, Memory care. If not, a nice Long-term care facility with Medicaid paying for his care.
Yeah, it’s annoying but it could be a whole lot worse.
You haven’t gone into detail about your father in law. Is he visiting your home? Does he live at your home? Does he have dementia? Please fill in the blanks for us.
Right?…
Always remember to never scold dementia, you will always be wrong. You cannot explain or reason with dementia.
End of story.
There is nothing in your profile about FIL
If he is not cognizant then accompanying him EACH time he goes to the bathroom is a must.
If he is cognizant and he is living with you then hubby puts his foot down and begins the process of looking for another place for him.
Cleaning the bathroom from this point on, until FIL moves out is now your husbands job.