Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
Get rid of this caregiver. There are amazing caregivers out there. Do your research and hire someone who will do will adequately assist your loved one.
Report any crimes committed against an elderly person. Reporting them will prevent them from harming not only your loved one but others as well.
sugarpi1, curious where are you getting the information that the caregiver is stealing, drugging and is verbally abusive?
I see in your profile that your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia, so please note that is not uncommon for someone with memory issues to make up stories. It would be unfair to accuse someone of those things when, in fact, it is not happening.
Go to the police with your evidence, if you have evidence.. According to your profile you are not the POA and your elder insists on using these caregivers you do not like, or suspect of stealing. If your elder is not incompetent then she is in charge of who cares for her. As I said, if you have evidence and proof of stealing you should go to the police or involve Adult Protective services. If you elder is incompetent then the POA, guardian or conservator should fire people they find to be stealing.
Your Mom has a Dementia, she can no longer make informed decisions. If you have proof, call APS and ask them to investigate. Tell them you know Mom needs more care but have no way of knowing how to go about it. You are not willing to do that care because she is abusive. You need to get her into Long-term care?
Is your mom telling you this or have you witnessed it ? My father makes up stories and Plays victim - No idea why he does it ? Milk doesnt cost $ 2 - groceries dont cost $20 - You Have to Pay your taxes and your Bills these are realities . its One thing to break your ass caring for someone and giving up your Life only for the elderly person to Make up stories . We are Not Living in the depression era . Its very Difficult dealing with someone who is paranoid and Lazy . So Not sure what to tell you . APS does sh.t , The police really Don't Care , call the elder abuse hot Line - Nothing . Call a Elder attorney or lawyer - Nothing But spending $10,000 . So the Reality Is " is your Mom Making up stories for attention ? " because they Do do that and it gets Old quick . Especially people who Like to be in control and sh.t on other people . They dont become Nice because they are Old .
1) Do you have a Power of Attorney? If not, can you get mother to execute one? Tell her that without it, she will be controlled by the state if anything goes wrong, no rights for you or other family to work in her best interests. And she will pay heavily for the ‘privilege’ of being controlled by strangers.
2) If there is a POA, read it and find out when it ‘kicks in’? If M needs a doctor to diagnose dementia, tell her that it’s a requirement to go for a test as she’s coming up to 100. If you can activate the POA, you can fire the carers.
3) If neither of these options work, get some evidence about the caregiver abuse (of your mother, not you) that you think is happening. Then give the carers the option of you taking it to the police for prosecution, or them quitting. If your evidence is solid, M won’t need to fire them – they will exit left themselves.
4) Stop whatever support that you give to prop up the situation. Let it fall over. Then call APS.
5) If M gets a diagnosis saying that she has legal capacity, give up. Stay away, and don’t let yourself get upset about something you can’t fix.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Report any crimes committed against an elderly person. Reporting them will prevent them from harming not only your loved one but others as well.
I see in your profile that your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia, so please note that is not uncommon for someone with memory issues to make up stories. It would be unfair to accuse someone of those things when, in fact, it is not happening.
According to your profile you are not the POA and your elder insists on using these caregivers you do not like, or suspect of stealing. If your elder is not incompetent then she is in charge of who cares for her. As I said, if you have evidence and proof of stealing you should go to the police or involve Adult Protective services.
If you elder is incompetent then the POA, guardian or conservator should fire people they find to be stealing.
Your mom has the control, let her have it and good luck to her.
1) Do you have a Power of Attorney? If not, can you get mother to execute one? Tell her that without it, she will be controlled by the state if anything goes wrong, no rights for you or other family to work in her best interests. And she will pay heavily for the ‘privilege’ of being controlled by strangers.
2) If there is a POA, read it and find out when it ‘kicks in’? If M needs a doctor to diagnose dementia, tell her that it’s a requirement to go for a test as she’s coming up to 100. If you can activate the POA, you can fire the carers.
3) If neither of these options work, get some evidence about the caregiver abuse (of your mother, not you) that you think is happening. Then give the carers the option of you taking it to the police for prosecution, or them quitting. If your evidence is solid, M won’t need to fire them – they will exit left themselves.
4) Stop whatever support that you give to prop up the situation. Let it fall over. Then call APS.
5) If M gets a diagnosis saying that she has legal capacity, give up. Stay away, and don’t let yourself get upset about something you can’t fix.
It’s a tricky one.
If this isn't a hired caregiver, the POA should step in and consult a lawyer.
Or file a police report.
See All Answers