My mom was moved to Memory Care from Assisted Living (same private facility) after 3 years in September after declining quickly since March. This coincided with COVID/isolation which I am sure was a huge factor. The memory care is wonderful and I have been so impressed with how they have handled her. She was definitely difficult and had issues (calling the police, trying to escape, etc) before we could get a spot for her. I was able to see her about 5 times from Sept - Nov 8th - just for 30 minutes, but so nice to put eyes on her! The week after my last visit, my mom and 7 residents tested positive for COVID so had to go into isolation. The nurse and NP called me a week ago to say that my mom was getting weaker, they think 50/50 from COVID and her decline. She isn't eating and they thought she has a few weeks. I get daily updates from the nurses and know she is being well taken care of, but I feel so helpless! I can't see her or really talk to her since she doesn't remember how to call and really too weak to answer the phone. She is basically just there. She isn't getting out of bed, totally incontinent, etc. Now she is getting some sores from being in bed, but they are treating them properly as well as all symptoms. I just don't know what to expect from here. I am 2 hours away and trying to go about my life, but so sad. Any advice appreciated!
My Mom one day just closed her eyes. She responded to people talking to her but would not open her eyes. Then, she wouldn't get out of bed I told them not to force her. She was like this about a week when I got a call she no longer could swallow. I told the Nurse to call in Hospice. My daughter, RN, checked Mom and agreed it was time. She was gone 6 days later.
The important thing is to continue to provide mom the high level of care she's getting, and to keep your her comfortable and pain free. Dealing with her second case of COVID and dementia I'm sure is certainly weighing on you. Like I said, there's not much advice I can give but I just wanted to offer my support to you and hope your mom's final days are peaceful.