On Sept 23, my parent's were in an auto accident. My mom died at the scene, and my dad suffered a heart attack and a broken ankle/leg. I am the only child who can help, as my sister is blind and an alcoholic. The man who caused the accident was looking at a video on his phone while driving, and he went left of center, killing my mom instantly, and injuring dad very badly.
Dad has had two surgeries on his leg. He had a heart cath the day after the accident and a stint was put in, due to heart blockage. Dad is now in a very nice nursing facility for his rehab. I have POA for dad. He has lost quite a bit of weight, and he eats very little. He basically lies in bed all day. He does get some therapy, but he needs help with everything. He is 81 years old. I know Dad will need skilled nursing care for the rest of his life. Before the accident, he was starting to fall down alot. Mom was concerned about his memory, and told me very plainly, that if she dies first, dad has to go into a home. Dad thinks he will be home by Thanksgiving. I just can't seem to tell him that he's never going home. How do I do this?
What an awful thing to happen to your parents… and all due to an idiot who obviously didn’t care about anyone else on the road. Hope he gets charged with vehicular homicide.
Or you can tell him that as soon as he is able to care for himself without falling or needing any assistance then his doctor said he/she would consider letting him go home.
I'm guessing that he already knows that he won't be going back home, though he may be in denial right now.
Best wishes.