Boy, oh boy! If I had a dollar for each time I've heard this today, I'd be one wealthy lady!!... And, if she only knew that I have taken her keys away from her along time ago, she'd wring my neck off!! But, what do I do??? Help her look for them until she forgets (10-15 minutes) later, that is what I do!!... Tomorrow, who know's, it may be her med's, purse, or even ME she is looking for!!... DOG, the bounty hunter, doesn't have a thing on me because I HUNT ALL DAY, and sometimes at night!! It is what it is, and I know it isn't gonna get any better, but I sure do dread getting up in the morning's to hear the 'same old, same old', all day. H.E.L.P
Also Dysfunctional Family Bingo - Google it! Keep a tally of how many episodes in a day, and at night reward yourself with that many M&M's, or that many ML's of wine, or that many minutes in a bathtub with candles. Make it a game by keeping statistics for a month or so.
Mostly, don't let it get to you. It is going to happen. She can't stop it. You can't stop it, Chuckle and go on. Secretly straighten your house while you pretend to look for the keys. Easy to say and hard to do, but TRY for the sake of your sanity.
I am sorta kidding sorta not. Of course you run the risk of being driven crazy by a singing fish.....
Hang in there. (((hugs)))
My mother always wants her checkbook which I had to take away sometime back. I have her POA so I handle all finances but she wants that checkbook, so I made her a duplicate of the one I have, minus the checks, which still ticks her off. She was taking the checkbook and hiding it and then screaming at me wanting to know where it was. Finally I had enough and said, "NO MORE!" It is hard sticking to your guns when you have a dementia parent who seems to be rational at times and other times a raving angry maniac. A therapist told me to learn to deflect or focus her attention on something else, which does not always work but it is worth a try.
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