My 92 yo father with with end stage Alzheimer's is still hanging on. He is barely conscious, and not eating more than a bit of ice cream daily. His hospice nurse came today and admitted she was very shocked he is still with us. Thankfully he is peaceful most of the time.
He and my Mom live in apartment near me. I am the only one of 5 kids nearby so I am naturally the one that does most of the caregiving. But in these last few weeks all of my sibs and inlaws have come to visit and take on a lot of care. An aide comes 3x a week, and hospice 2x per week. I read all these forum entries about difficult, dysfunctional families and parents and thank my lucky stars I don't have that added burden! We are a drama-free, loving supportive bunch.
He has seen all his children and many grandchildren this week. I have told him how much everyone loves him, and what a wonderful life he has had. I assured him we would all take care of Mom. I told him we would all understand if he wanted to let go and leave. He has "seen" his brother and parents lately, and I told him he was free to go to them.
But he is still hanging on.
We all just wish he could just finally pass and be at peace.
Your situation reminds me both of my mom and dad.
With my dad, it seemed like we all were there and surrounded his bedside when the hospice nurse came and told us it was time. I said just what you said about it being ok to leave and that Jesus, my husband and I would take care of my mom. Ten minutes later he was gone.
My mom is 95 with end stage Alzheimer's. In April she survived being near death from severe dehydration and COVID at her previous ALF. She has lost I now believe to be 25 pounds. She also eats a little ice cream everyday along with protein shakes and an energy beverage that I bring to her new facility where she's in their memory care unit with hospice care.
You are very, very fortunate to have a drama-free, loving supportive family.
Now that he has seen everyone, he may finally let go.
As I was saying goodbye to my dad, I told him "Jesus is never late - He is always on time" - the same is true for your dad!
I love the thought that Jesus is always on time.
Your dad should be on his way soon to meet his brothers and parents.